Wrong parents??

Question

Ok, im 13 and i feel unloved by my own paretns, but a year ago i met these people and it feels liket hey were meant to be my parents, im at there house all the time, is there anything ican do and is this normal, and can it be possible that i just got the wrong parents?

Answer 1

Your parents are your parents wether you like it or not! Many of my older friends seem like parents to me, so its not unusual to wish that other people were your real parents. Just try to love your mum and dad for who they are, they just might surprise you!

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you feel unloved by your parents. I felt that way too when I was growing up and it hurt a lot. My parents were divorced
when I was 2 and 1/2 years old and my father lived in another state. My mother worked and dated so was gone most of the time. I remember thinking that if she loved me she would spend more time with me.

When I was in my 20's I found that she loved me more than anyone else ever has but because we had different personalities
it was always hard for us to talk together. My main point here is that because you don't think or feel loved by your parents doesn't mean that they don't love you.

There are also difficulties that can occur because parents and children have a psychological dynamic between them that other people don't have. As an example; when I was 17 y/o, a friend said to me,"You are so lucky to have such an understanding mother that you can talk to about anything." I couldn't believe my ears, and said, "What do you mean? I can't talk to my mother at all. You're the one with the great mother. I can talk about anything with her!"

If your parents feed and clothe you and don't abuse you, please be open to their love. Try to build bridges to improve your relationship with them. Whether you are successful or not, you will be glad you did when you are older and realise how difficult it is to be a parent.

Being at your new adult, married friends home a lot is not that unusual. I used to work with a woman who said that when her children were growing up, some of their friends were there as much as her own children were. We get our needs met by many different people. I am grateful for every positive parental role model that I had.

Answer 3

I doubt very much you have the wrong parents however, are both of your parents out of the house for long periods each day. Is it possible that you are alone quite a bit and miss having them around? I'm pretty sure your parents love you but some times some adults are not good at letting you know how much you mean to them. Other adults have different ways of caring and mothering - sound like the "other" people may show it more & this is what you need, want and miss. Good Luck Dear!

Answer 4

Be aware. At your age there are always difficulties between kids and parents. If they are giving you curfews and expecting a certain behavior from you, then they love you and want you to be a successful person. True parental love says no to the child. These other ppl may not have your best interests at heart but just like hanging out with you, Figure out what these ppl get out of this relationship with you. Why do they have you at their house so much? Do they allow you to do things that your parents won't? Do they encourage you to be involved with your parents more? If not, why? What would they get out of keeping the wedge between you and your parents?Everyone gets something out of every relationship or the relationship stops. Are your parents at home or working too much or going out with friends and ignoring you? If any of this is true, sit them down and have a talk or print out these question and answers and leave it for them to read. Communication is the only way to deal with a problem. Running to someone else just creates more problems to be stacked on the ones you already have. I pray that you will have a great talk with your parents and will be a healed family.

Answer 5

Figure out what it is you love so much about the other set of parents. Then maybe have them help you sit down with your parents and discuss how you are feeling. Let your parents know exactly what it is you need from them to feel loved. NO parent wants to hear this. Some will be open and will immediately make changes. Some will be resistent and offended. But be patient. Your parents are older. They take longer to change.

Answer 6

You must not think like that. Your parents loves you unconditionally, it just a phase everyone go through every now and then. Don't go away from them, think about how they rise you and taking care of you since you're little, give you proper education, teach you something new. That worth to consider.

None in this world can compare to our own parents ( unless they abusive).

Answer 7

At that age we always resent our parents and always wish that our friends parents were our parents (not sure if it's a hormonal issue). I don't know your situation, but if possible talk to your parents about how you feel, or write a letter if you can't get the nerve to say it face to face, things can only improve if they know how you feel. Good Luck :)

Answer 8

At that age, we usually tend to be more attracted to the idea of others as our parents, a perfectly normal biological thing. But having this new familyu as parents would be totally different as having them as friends.

Answer 9

i don't think so hunni, unfortunly we don't get to choose our family and being 13 we all hate our parents or don't get along with them but i'll assure that ur parents love u more than anything they just may not show it much to u. you love no more than ur own child.

Answer 10

ummmm yea that you were adopted at birth other than that no i think