My wife got pregnant with our child and now I find her disgusting to look at. She has gotten all fat and ugly and repulsive to me, so much so that I avoid being home as much as possible and can only sleep on the couch on the other side of the house. I am even beginning to find myself hating her because of this, I know I dont love her anymore. I have never found overweight women attractive and now she is like 125 or so pounds. Is it time for a divorce from the wildebeast?
2006-07-20 18:07:10 · 48 answers · asked by schnewschnew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I notice only the fat girls with bodies as disgusting as black womens is answering, oh, and the guys who are hoping to get laid by a fat ogre.
2006-07-20 18:47:00 · update #1
No. Don't abandon her when she needs you the most. She might be unruly but the times are like that. Don't abandon her at any cost in this period of time.
2006-07-20 18:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Eternity 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
She may be bigger but she is still the same person, with the same heart and personality that you were attracted to when you married her. People don't change by the amount of pounds they put on. You can't throw people away or decide that you hate them because of this reason. In fact, it isn't even a reason. Imagine her saying to you that because you had an accident and you lost a leg that she hated you and wanted a divorce...you may find her physically unattractive but you are 100 times uglier than what you think she is in terms of mentality. Surely, every human knows the imminence of change? She has had your baby and has had to adjust to change, she may find food a comfort seen as she doesn't have you anymore. You can't try to escape or run away from someone, it is your duty as a husband and as a father to explore your feelings and be dutiful, not just run away. So is it time for a divorce? No. If you feel that bad about her, then tell her, how can you - as a couple - bring up a child if your not even talking or if you can't bear to be at home?
2016-03-27 01:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your words are half as charming in person as they are online, I can't imagine why she's hopelessly let herself go... (sarcasm)
125 lb. is fat to you? I think if you feel this way now, you never truly loved her to begin with. She went through the burden of marrying you and bearing your child in maternal agony and you still expect her to always look like a perfect goddess? You need help, dear. Better yet, ask her what she thinks because I doubt you'll get any support here. Most people get married because they love the person not just the body. Depending on her situation, I think you'd be doing her a favor by taking your ego and shoving it.
2006-07-20 19:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Songbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being completely shallow. She had your child so maybe she's going through postpartum depression and is having a difficult time trying to lose the weight.
It doesn't even sound like you help her in caring for your child and you avoid her at all costs so I'm sure she sees that too. Have you even considered her feelings and what you can do to help her through this.
Also, karma has its way of coming back around so don't be surprised if the tables are turned and you become the beast!!
2006-07-20 18:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have no say from this point on! She should leave you! You are the type of "man" that gives men a bad name. You should understand that if you love someone, you love them no matter what they look like. If everyone in this world was like you, there would be a lot more dead men, because us women would rise up and kick all your butts. its ridiculous that our society makes ppl think that a woman has to be a certain size to be attractive. its not true! heavy women are beautiful as well...believe me, i am one. I've been married for almost 2 years, and been with my husband for 4 years, and i was thin for the first 2 years of our relationship, now i am heavy, and he loves me more than ever. that's what a MAN is...
2006-07-20 20:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD? Are you serious? Your wife is pregnant with YOUR child and you think you should be able to divorce her because she got fat? You are a shallow loser. You know what, she would probably be much better off without you. You are such a dog. I hate to break it to you dude, but if your wife only weighs 125 you should be thrilled. Yeah, a divorce is exactly what you need. She should leave your sorry *** !
2006-07-20 18:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah! be the man, be the hero, set the rules, be the cook at home, prepare healthy dinners, teach her healthy habits, get a babysitter and take her to workout sessions.
Tell her that you love her regardless of her wait but that you would make love to her like a stallion if she would get back to her pre-baby body.
I understand that you're not attracted to her. Save your relationship, you'll feel like a hero when she feels like a princess. That will be the best move of your life, divorce will only bring you awfull life moments, NO ONE I know has enjoyed going thru a divorce SAVE your relationship
2006-07-20 19:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sauvi1967 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should look at from the inside not the out if she is still the sweet and innoscent person she was before just deal with the weight issue with her on a level where she won't take offense to and no i am not black but i do have some extra weight on me and my ex husband always makes fun of me and i just ignore him cause he is a jerk
2006-07-20 19:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by wizard402006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still not to fat. You should talk to her about it before it's to late. When she starts getting up in the 200's it's almost impossible to loose weight.
If she does not loose the weight you should divorce her , because otherwise you might waste a bunch of years with a fat ugly woman
2006-07-23 11:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by trollmannen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...you sound like my babys daddy...considering you think a woman carrying a life that YOU helped create inside of her is disgusting? Dude...you seriously need mental help. I am afraid for anyone within a 10 mile radius of you. You must have been molested by a man as a child...
2006-07-20 19:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by PerfeclyImperfect 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a child you tend to put on weight if that is the reason for a divorce she dont need you i bet you have flaws and she could tell us about your short comming i just hope if there is a divorce and you be honest with the judge she is paid well you were a sorry excuse for a husband and a poor excuse for a father
2006-07-20 18:20:13 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋