I went to the doctor recently and had to give blood. My mom paid extra to have me drug tested and I passed. Do you think it is wrong and that she should have at least told me about it? Even after she got the results? I found out from my sister.
2006-07-20 18:06:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think that her getting the blood test done wasn't wrong. I mean, she is the one paying for your medical bills so she should be the one able to have it done. I do think it was wrong of her not to tell you about it after she found out that you were clean. I think she was just too embarrassed that she actually did it (once she found out that you weren't doing drugs and she had nothing to worry about). But she still should have told you about it and let you know how proud or you she was, and how sorry she was for misjudging you. I would bring it up to her and ask her about it and just let her know that you have no plans on doing drugs and that next time she suspects or wants to know anything like that just to ask you. And be sure and let her know that you will be honest with her. Let her know that you want to have an open relationship with her; not one of secrets and lies. I am sure this hurt your feelings but it does show that she cares about you, because if she didn't she wouldn't care if you were doing drugs or not. She was probably just nervous about bringing up she subject and she didn't know how to bring it up also. That means just bring it up to her.
2006-07-20 20:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mike and Gina 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that it is wrong that she did that.. She should have talked to you about what her intentions were before she went ahead and did it, but think of it this way.. she is probably just making sure that you are being safe and not doing something that could end up harming you or make you become addicted.. Not saying that what she did was justified, but her intentions were good even if she went behind your back to do them.. Talk to her, see if your sister is telling the truth and find out why she might have wanted to have you drug tested.. Maybe she had a suspision about something.. you never know unless you ask.. Just be as open with her as you can and explain to her that you feel like she has to sneak around to see whether or not you are doing something that you shouldn't be.. The best think to do though is to talk about it.. It could clear up a lot of things between the two of you and possibly help to regain some trust that she seems to have lost with you.. Good luck!!
2006-07-21 01:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Roseytoes9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All is fair in Love and Teens.
Actually, she must have been insecure about wondering if you did drugs and to calm her nerves she had you tested. Maybe it was offered at the time of appointment and she said yes. Everybody sells something now a days, even medical practices. After the results maybe she felt she did not want to say anything to you?
I have 2 questions for you:
1. Is your sister telling the truth?
2. Do you have something in your past that would make your mom worry and not trust you?
Only you can answer them. Why not ask your mom?
2006-07-21 01:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called intervention be happy your parents care for you that much. Another way to look at is a truck drivers have to take a random drug test and bi yearly physicals by federal law. Just a little insight, the drug tests are reported to the employer and not the driver.HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF OUR GOVERNMENT SAID EVERYONE HAD TO TAKE THESE TEST?
2006-07-21 11:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it shows that your mom lacks faith in you. regardless of the outcome. she doesnt trust you. and if your sister knows and told you . then there is more trust between your sister and your mom. you should tell your mom that your sister told you. and even the field a little. then rat out your sister. but only if you can stand the backlash. as they say . .. people who live in glass houses. shouldnt throw stones. meanwhile your mom and your sister . are playing games with your head. you should talk to your dad.
also. you could just move out. and sever your ties with them. they dont sound like very nice people.
2006-07-21 01:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the good news is that you passed. If you don't have any reason to be worried,then it shouldn't really be an issue. I think that maybe the two of you could have talked about it before hand. It's all about the circle of trust.
2006-07-21 01:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by pfc_weiss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, it's not the coolest thing she could have done, but I don't think it was wrong for her not to tell you. It was wrong for the doctor not to tell you, and to reveal the results to your mom and not you. I'm pretty sure that's a violation of HIPPA.
2006-07-21 01:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a parent being a parent! Natural instinct!
2006-07-21 01:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ashton's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer about this. It may be illegal in your state. You could start by contacting your local ACLU office.
2006-07-21 01:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by pondering_it_all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could have told you afterwards, but she likely didn't want you to know that she supected something. Parents are wierd sometimes.
2006-07-21 01:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋