Okay, my friend has liked me for about two years. What he doesn't know is that I like him a lot, too. However, I'm the type of person who do not want any of these romance stuff before college because I'm really old-fashioned. I promise him that I will tell him how I feel by the end of the year, and he's willing to wait, whether it's a rejection or an acceptance. Yet, I don't know if I should go against my beliefs and tell him sooner. I know he's willing to wait, but it's really unfair to him. Should I wait until the end of the year, or tell him sooner?
2006-07-20 17:42:32 · 19 answers · asked by CS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I told him not to wait for me; I even said that I will look for someone for him because we're close friends! Yet, he said that he doesn't want to, so I feel really guilty. Yet, this is the most crucial year of high school, with college approaching, and I just don't want to deal with it right now. I might be making a huge mistake by ignoring my feelings, but I have get a decent education to help my family.
2006-07-20 18:14:57 · update #1
If you really feel strongly for him, you should tell him sooner. Because you two would be wasting precious time together if you're just waiting for a specific date.
Remember, life doesn't go by a scheduled appointment. And you never know what could happen from now and then, so go ahead and tell him. You don't have to stick to a belief that you think will be for the better. You might be happier after you let it out and told him that you like him too. And then he could support you through college too. So go ahead, you most likely won't regret it.
2006-07-20 17:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Verie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him now. Admitting your feelings now does not mean you have to act on them now; you can have the courage of your convictions, and you can also free him from sitting on pins & needles for a whole year. Tell him how you feel, and tell him what you have already decided you are willing to do about it and when. If that is unacceptable to him (waiting), then he has the time to decide what to do about it, instead of having any opportunities he has taken away from him because you told him to wait. Even if he's willing to wait, he'll only hold it against you later for making him wait.
2006-07-20 17:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him how you feel and everything else you have up here. He should understand and should be willing to wait still. The only thing is that he will now have something good to look forward to. If he's willing to wait now, he should not mind at all waiting, especially with the good reasons you have.
2006-07-20 18:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Til him now. Tomorrow isn't promised. And trust me...just because you tell him doesn't mean there will be "romance" in the true sense of the word.
Just tell him, but let him know tht you're not ready for a relationship with anyone yet.
2006-07-20 17:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by NYCchic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun luv comes knocking only but so many times. If he really likes you and it's true and mutual and you don't want to risk him moving along till him how you feel. If he respects you and likes you ask much as you believe he will wait until your college is over or at least you can continue a friend ship that can only grow and get stronger.
2006-07-20 17:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him sooner. What on earth are you waiting for.
If you don't want romance tell him you want to take things slow. How difficult is that. Good luck
2006-07-20 17:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Shadow of a girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
various human beings wait until eventually after 12 weeks. there's a miles less danger of miscarriage. i might actually wait until eventually once you first OB circulate to to tell all people. That way if there's a controversy, you do no longer could manage the guilt of telling others too. you do no longer could tell your business agency in any respect until eventually it's time to take maternity go away or until eventually your physician recommends weight regulations, in the event that they do. some do no longer... I miscarried early, and instructed all people i became into pregnant. It became into depressing. I waited until eventually I had my first OB circulate to to tell my family participants approximately my cutting-edge being pregnant. i did no longer tell acquaintances or employers until eventually i became into over 12 weeks. I labored in a ironmongery keep, and that i became into positioned on weight regulations so I had to tell them!
2016-10-08 03:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by matlock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him sooner, girl. dont make him wait, you already know hes obviously a good guy if hes willing to wait that long.........not like most, guys like that are not easy to come by.
2006-07-20 17:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to wait to tell him. It's not fair to expect him to wait for you. (by the way, that's a mature and responsible attitude you have) He should have the opportunity to find happiness and companionship with someone else, if you aren't ready for it.
2006-07-20 17:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner the better if u really lke him go 4 it u have nothing to lose..
2006-07-20 17:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋