my mom is so paranoid ?

Question

she is always in my business and is always asking me questions!!! once i was painting a box with acrlic paint. it got on my fingers and i didn't know. then the tip of my nose started itching so i scratched it with the finger that had paint on it. when my mom saw me she freaked out and started asking me if i was sniffing the paint (incase u dont know, u cant get high off of the paint that i was using). and once she was looking through the history in the internet and opened a yahoo answers question that someone asked about drugs or something and mom freaked out again and started asking my sister and i if we knew what some drugs were and if we did drugs and that kind of stuff. i know that if i even think about doing drugs then not only would my parents kill me but so would my sister and friends. how can i get her to stop being so paranoid about me all the time??? how can i get her to trust the fact that i dont do drugs or anything like that?

i have asked her b4 if she has ever done drugs. she denied it but i think she was lying cuz she was a hippy when she was just about 5 or 6 years older then me and most hippies did drugs. i think she thinks that if i know she did drugs then i would think it would b alright for me 2 do them to. i dont think that. i dont do drugs and i dont want to.

it's not cuz of her that i dont do drugs. it's cuz of my friend who used to smoke weed. my other friends and i hated when she would come to school high

Answer 1

You are so blessed to have a Mom that cares so much and is always in your business and is willing to ask you about drug use. It seems she has been doing something right because you yourself stated that you would never do drugs. I think you should thank her for caring so much and just keep on earning her trust by not using drugs. I would guess that the trust will grow as she sees you making right choices consistently. God bless honey. I hope all works out for you, and you and your Mom end up very close!!

Answer 2

Tell her exactly what you wrote here. I mean, if she's going behind your back and asking your sister, then say, "Mom, I know you've been checking my email and stuff, and I understand you're just looking out for me, but could you just please ask me to my face, instead of asking my sister?" Say it without being bitchy or with an attitude. There is so much filth on the internet I'd probably do the same thing with my kids/teenagers. Also, ask her if she's done drugs and what drugs did she do. She probably did drugs and doesn't want you to go through that hell. Ask her and talk to her about it. Hopefully she can be honest and tell you her freak show stories and you could bond, instead of going your separate ways.

Answer 3

She just being a mother. Once you will live separate life with her, and when you think back the memories about your mother, you too have a long and nice laughing together.

You don't know how a mother think until you become one.

Be grateful you has such a loving and caring mother. Change your point of view and look at those children who are neglected by their mother and must face a world without any support.

Answer 4

There are so many news reports of teens going out of control, mixing with wrong company, etc, so your anxious mom is probably trying to make sure you are okay. She is (a bit overly) concerned about your well-being. You may not realise this, but parents may still view you as a little kid who needs guidance and protection.

a) Try to reassure your mom that you are sensible enough to make your own sound judgements. Talk to her and find out what she is worried about.

b) Show her that you are responsible (Don't act like a little kid) Help out with household chores at your own intiative. She will soon realise that you are indeed more 'grown-up'.

Answer 5

This is a communication problem.
Your mother thinks you don't listen.
You listen, but she needs feedback to know.

Script: She talks, you listen
Next: You talk, she listens

This is so important to let her finish and likewise. OK?

Whenever your mother talks, after you need to repeat in your words (not sarcastically), but in a way to reinforce what she is saying. She won't have to think it again, and if you anticpate her repeating the subject, remind her in exact words what you said before, then say Mom that's useful information, I'm x years old and I am listening to you. Please do not repeat it again, it's not necessary, I'm not a child, I can make decisions on my own and I wouldn't do that.

You'll find this works in the adult world too. OK?

At some point in your life study communication.

Answer 6

Well your mom has the right to ask you questions about stuff like that. But she should trust you a bit more, and not be paranoid, but just remember, she's trying to protect you, hard to believe.

You should maybe talk to her and tell her what your are feeling.

Answer 7

Tell her to buy you a do it yourself drug test, you'd be glad to take it,
And bby the way the way, I am very proud of you, you sound as if you havea good head on your shoulder.. keep on saying No, The drug life only takes you down.

Answer 8

She is just being an involved parent. Deal with it now, it won't last forever. At least she's not totally ignnoring you. You'll realize what she was doing when you get older.

Answer 9

she doesnt want u to be a drug addict thats why shes so concerned juss talk to her and tell her that u really dont do drugs n if she doesnt believe u its up to her

Answer 10

um just in a while you will get used to it b/c um like my moms like that and my dad ilike i cant have a b/f till im 16 ad i am 12 but me idk and i have one n e way i sneak if you wanna talk about it
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