What to do with my x-husband and his girlfriend keeping my from my son and harassing me?

Question

My x-husband has custody of my son and ever since 2 weeks ago he got a girlfriend and now is keeping me from seeing my son. Also his girlfriend is calling and harassing me and talking crap to me. They are also talking about me to my son saying rude things about me. They are making things up that they said my son has said but has not!!!

Answer 1

Does the custody agreement specify when and how often you are to get visitation with your son? If so, and they do not have him available when you arrive to pick up your son, file contempt of court charges against your ex-husband.

Tell your ex that you will be there to pick up your son as specified in the court signed custody agreement. If they tell you that your son will not be available, show up anyway. Then, when your son isn't there or ready, file for contempt.

You can also file for contempt because they are interfering with the parental/child relationship.

You can also get a restraining order against the girlfriend if she is calling and harassing you.

Answer 2

That is a hard one...do you get to see your son at all? If you do then you can just let him know not to believe things that they tell him until he asks you about them, also there may be some kind of action you can take with the courts if you arethat serious and upset about it which I am sure you are. It isn't right to fill a childs head with bad things about their other parent, my parents were divorced and both of them took turns bashing the other when we were with them and my sister and I really have hard feelings toward them for that, it isn't fair to the child or to you. The whole new girlfriend thing is BS...that you should take up with her and confront her about it. Did you see your son before the new girlfriend came into the picture? I am so sorry for you, I hope you get things worked out..if you need any more advice or someone to talk to you can feel free to email me at [e-mail]...good luck

Answer 3

I am divorced with 4 kids. My wife and her family bash me around my kids when Im not around to defend myself. I get really mad when I hear about it though. My kids shouldnt be hearing things like that from them. When my kids ask me about some of it, I have them think about how I am when we are together. I ask them if they think I am that type of person, or do they think that I would do stuff like what they say. I never deny it, rather I have them think it over by what they see and what they feel. If they can be influenced against me then there isnt much I can do to stop it or change their minds. I can only live by example, and I never bash my x-wife or her family when the kids are around. The result of this is that my kids enjoy being around me more cause they realize that the stuff is untrue, because they make up their own minds. They see me as the fun one who doesnt burden them with adult problems, and they see the other side as a bunch of angry people who call me things that they are in reality.

I know, alot of rambling, but dont sink to your x-husbands level. Let your kids make up their own minds about you, they are smarter than you can possibly give them credit for.

Answer 4

if you at least have court ordered visitations then they can not interfere with those visitations no matter what, it is against the law for them to try to prevent you from seing your son unless the courts say you can't see him, if they are poisoning your child against you that is also a no no and you could have that brought up in court because it is endangering your relationship with your child, however limited it may be.

most states have laws on their books against such activities and have punishments for the guilty parties up to and including rescinding custody rights.

i would seek profesional legal counsel in this case and see what your options are but it looks like this is heading in the wrong direction.

i know of this because i have full custody of my daugher and my lawyer instructed me on such matters of what i can and can not do, there is alot of do's and don'ts. my ex has not shown up to visit our daughter for the past 2 years but she has visitations twice a month, and on her visitation days i don't make any plans until it is past her time to visit by 2 hours. she is supposed to pick up our daughter by 10AM so we either stay in the house or in front of the house till noon on those days just in case she shows up out of the blue. i also don't bad mouth my ex to my daughter and try to explain things to her so that she understands the situation but does not hold resentment or negative feelings for her mom.

there are rules to be played by, but if those rules are broken then there is a referee in the game called a judge. i have seen people win more visitations or loose custody in cases like this.

Answer 5

properly if she likes the call your son has she shouldn't ought to ensure on yet another one only because your son is called that. I doubt she named him "after" your son, she in order that takes position to wish the call for her youngster only like you probably did. so some distance as your son no longer wanting to be round her, im confident he's finding out on up on your thoughts in route of her and that you don't love her. So of route he obviously aspects with mom. make confident your no longer influencing his thoughts about all and sundry. And if he fairly would not like her, only clarify that for your ex and perchance for a even as they're going to ought to do issues only both of them. yet regrettably if this female is going to be aside of your ex's existence, your son can ought to easy techniques to get over it or a minimum of take care of her.

Answer 6

see a lawyer

Answer 7

turn your phone off and go to sleep

Answer 8

go to court