i saw my sister in-law with other man 'n bed, should i tell my bro.?

Answer 1

WOW! What a horrible position she has put you in, huh?

If you have a boyfriend or husband, and your brother caught him with another woman, would you want him to tell you? If your boyfriend of husband was cheating on you and your brother knew about it but didnt tell you, but later you found out he knew all along...how would that make you feel?

Does your sister'n law know that you know? Have you talked about it with her?

BEST CASE SCENARIO:

You confront her immediately and make her tell your brother, immediately, what is going on. Tell her that, if she doesn't, you are going to have to tell him, right away, because you love him too much to allow him to be made a fool. Plus, as his sister, you cant live with him being hurt like this. I would also tell her to tell him that you found out what was going on, just now, and you were going to tell if she didn't. It will, then, be up to her to decide whether or not to do that. Set a short time limit on it, and tell her you will be contacting him to support him after he finds out. This way, you dont have to tell him. You won't feel guilty, and, most importantly, wont be lying to your brother...covering up his cheating wife.

There will probably be alot of posters that will say to "stay out of it," "that it is none of your business," "mind your own business," "it doesnt concern you," etc. By not telling him, keeping it a secret, "minding your own business," you are just enabling her behavior. By telling him, you are not overstepping your bounds, you are not doing anything wrong...you are just holding her accountable for her actions. No one deserves to be cheated on. More importantly, no one deserves for their own family to cover up for their cheating spouse!

I know it will be one of the hardest, if not the hardest, thing you ever have to tell someone. If you love and care for your brother, you have to tell him. Heck, I know this is a stretch, but what if she is cheating with someone who has HIV or hepatitus. Would you ever be able to forgive yourself if your brother caught a terminal illness because he didn't know to cut off sexual relations with his cheating wife? Yet, you could have stopped him.

You don't want to help her cheat. By not holding her accountable for her actions, you are helping her get away with it. If you love your brother, you have to inform him.

He is going to be destroyed. However, his pain will not even compare to the pain of finding out down the road, that not only is his wife a cheater, but his family knew about it and didn't care enough to say anything.

Answer 2

Gather the evidence before you inform your brother coz you wouldn't know whether she will deny it or not. Once you have sufficient proof without her knowledge, then you can have a word with your sis-in-law and find out how her marriage life with your bro.

Ask her whether she's happy with your brother and is there anything that she wish to have some improvements on your bro. Obviously she will ask you why sudden question on this and you may just replied her "Merely concern". Then blushly ask her is it brother has not shower any concern or sexless lately?" If she started to get annoy, you may calm down and told her that you have found out her affairs with other man behind yr bro. See her reaction and if she doesn't show any repent on her mistakes, you may tell her that if she continuously repeating her mistakes you will not hesitate to inform your brother and do forewarn her the consequences as yr brother will choose for divorce instead of forgiving.

Answer 3

This is so touchy...Honestly no, you dont want this to come back and bite you. Now what was happening in bed, was she just laying there talking to him? You see your bro will want info and then he will hate you for telling him, their relationship is not your responsibility. I know this seems like a bad answer, but believe me i have seen some pretty bad things happen to the messenger and you dont want to lose your bro.

Answer 4

have been they only sitting having lunch, or have been they preserving palms and smooching? till it particularly is the latter, you particularly have no real to think of that there grew to become right into a topic - there is an extremely good rationalization. What you will possibly desire to have carried out grew to become into march real as much as the table, say hi, and introduce your self as "her husband's sister." that must be a danger loose thank you to get the enjoying cards on the table. If it concerns you, point out it next time you spot her. If it grew to become into out of line, that would scare her sufficient to cut back it out.

Answer 5

Hello??? Hell yes I know some people would stay out of it but your first obligation is to your brother he's blood.
If you think he will disregard you or say he will talk with her and you know she will lie and manipulate him into believing her than don't say anything until you get proof and do it fast. It would be really hard for your brother to forgive you if he found out you knew before you said something.

Answer 6

yeah tell ur brother but before that ask ur sister-in-law what was the reason behind this ugly act. And find out from ur brother side what must be the reason that she is cheating on him

Answer 7

if it was your friend i would say no and stay out of it cause it is not your problem, but this is your brother so it is your moral family responsibility to tell on her, thats what sisters are for.

then beat her *** like a piniata because your bro shouldn't hit women but at least let him watch, hehe

Answer 8

Tough question, I would go with talking with the sister in law first then going from there

Answer 9

Wouldn't you want him to tell you if he saw your man in bed with some female you would be pissed if you found out he knew and didn't tell you so yeah tell him

Answer 10

Although I don't believe in meddling in people's marriages but if it's family, then yes I think it's okay. Plus if your hubby was cheating and your bro caught him, would you be upset if he DIDN"T tell you? Well, you just got your answer.

Answer 11

If your husband were in bed with another woman, would you want to know? You know your brother better than we do. Follow your heart and you will do the right thing. Good luck to you and your brother.