i do like her, but i am afraid if we have sex it will mess up our friendship. We are both girls. Should I stop over analysing and just do it?
2006-07-20 17:08:36 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
IM A GIRL SO IS SHE
2006-07-20 17:18:30 · update #1
i am a lesbian she is bi
2006-07-20 19:01:03 · update #2
just do what your heart tells u
2006-07-22 20:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
S.B., I am in the same boat, and this is my story. I have been best friends with this girl for about 5 years. We have some serious chemistry going on. I am bi, she is what I would call bi-curious. I am totally in love with her, and want her badly. She knows it, and we have talked about it. That was so scary when I told her, but it DID NOT ruin our friendship. It made it stronger. We have acknowledged that we have a very weird relationship. We are absolutely obsessed with each other. We are together, or at least talk on the phone every day. She has been married 15 years (the jerk treats her like ****), and she thinks it would be cheating and breaking her marriage vows to do anything physical, although she is very turned on by the thought. The last thing I want to do is break up her marriage OR mine. Both of our husbands know we have feelings for each other, and have said they would be ok with it if things ever became physical. I think the guys are turned on by the thought (LOL). The thing is, you just can't force these things. I am still waiting...
2006-07-21 09:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's for you and her to discuss. Often though, sex can change a friendship because of the emotions it often involves. People get attached, or they feel 'wrong' about it (I don't mean that in respect to homosexuality, but that regardless of orientation, people do have regrets), but really, you need to know what you want, otherwise no matter what happens, things won't be the same. If you want it to just be a friendship, sex may not be a good idea unless you two think you can remain friends and that it won't severely alter your friendship. If you two want it to be something more though, than go for it.
2006-07-21 02:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jesse O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is much better if it's more then just sex. Just stay friends. A good friendship is worth a lot, so is a meaningful relationship.
2006-07-21 01:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friendship is probably already ron the rocks just from the fact that you know she wants to have sex with you. it's a hard choice. but to tell her no wouldn't that mess things up as well. live life to the fullest. but be safe!!!
2006-07-21 13:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by scared2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it'll either bring you closer or tear you apart. Just make sure you both want to do it. Are you lesbian or bi or just curious? Would you date someone like her who was a guy and would it last?
2006-07-21 01:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex is okay between friends. Just don't read too much into it if she ONLY wants sex. However, if she wants sex AND a relationship, it could very well turn out to be the best decision you ever made....
2006-07-21 00:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Big Perm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex always messes up friendships. Unless you want to pursue more with her,I wouldn't suggest it
2006-07-21 12:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny, girls WANT desperately to be friends with guys who have sex with them and to be liked by guys who have sex with them.
Girls have sex with guys that don't always like them and don't like their books, music and TV choices. Girls marry these guys!
Girls also don't like having sex with boys they are "just friends with."
First, you shouldn't have sex outside of marraige.
Second, if someone is your friend they'll always be your friend unless you become so horrible they can't bear to be around you. That can happen even without sex!
Third, why is it when the "break up" comes the aquantanship doesn't even continue.
That's it.
Girls and guys only have SEX with AQUANTANCES!
Now I have it figured out!
It's someone you have a "limited like for" but at the same time you have the "hots for them" so badly you'll show them the boobs you hate (no girl likes her boobs) and show them your TRUE hair color and let them see your potty parts and let them inside you and let them share bodily fluids with you, but they are only aquantances. Someone you keep at arms length. Someone you restrict access to.
Gees.
Why are people so shallow?
2006-07-21 00:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the friendship is a really valued one, pass unless you both are thinking relationship. If the friendship is nice but not terribly important, if you really want her, go for it.
2006-07-21 02:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friendship is probably already ruined just from the fact that you know she wants to have sex with you.
2006-07-21 00:18:38 · answer #11 · answered by crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋