My wife was very attractive when we met now after the birth of our son she has let herself go I have been debating cheating on her for awhile now but I dont know if I can. I want to so much but also dont want to hurt her. But at this point I dont know if I care anymore. What should I do. We were just married a few months ago.
2006-07-20 17:07:36 · 33 answers · asked by Ender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You stupid bastard
2006-07-21 07:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by sunnyday 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I definitely think you should cheat on her, but only if your marriage vows included "until I get tired of you." Didn't you just make a vow before God to her?
On the serious side, being frustrated sexually isn't a good thing. You owe it to yourself and your wife and your marriage to open communication with her about this. A marriage counselor might be viable, but consider that a huge percentage of people who use a marriage counselor are divorced within two years. I suggest a pastoral counselor. If you do choose counseling, be prepared to make some changes yourself. At this point, you see her as the one who should change. But what would you think if there are other reasons why your wife hasn't returned to her previous glory? Wouldn't you want to help her with those rather than running away?
It's just a fact that the sex will change after a few years of marriage. In a strong marriage, other things take its place. Your wife should be your best friend too. If you don't feel like you are that close, perhaps it's time to reexamine your marriage commitment.
2006-07-20 17:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Bentley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand not being attracted to her. But maybe if you took the lead like eat healthy find someone to watch the baby while you guys work out, and if all else fails dont cheat, because whats the point if you dont want to be with her why break her heart and cheat just leave her and save her the pain. Not that I recommend that cause that would be wrong, but hey I cant stop you....
2006-07-20 17:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang, she had a baby. Don't cheat, whatever you do don't cheat. Try going out for walks, swimming, bike ridding, ect. Encourage her and tell here that you love her. Join and go to the gym together. Be there for her, she has a baby and it can put a lot of stress on a first time mom. If u cheat on her u will regret and think about the disease you will bring home to your family. I know u don't want that. All I have to say is remember your wedding vows.!!! :)
2006-07-20 17:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by missgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never the answer. Help her get her inner beauty out into the open world. Having a sun is a lot of work and maybe there is no time in her busy schedule to fix herself. Obviously to her the baby is more important. Think about your family before you make a decision.
2006-07-20 17:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!!!!!!!!
What the hell is wrong with you?
There will be a time when you lose your hair or gain a pot belly or are unable to perform sexually.
Does that give her a right to cheat on you?
You married her for her, not her body. She gave you a son, her body changed with that gift and you are ungrateful enough to think of cheating on her?
You are an idiot. She deserves better than you. Do her and her son a favor and leave. Let the two of them find a real man.
2006-07-20 17:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by princesszoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an ***. Do you realize all that a woman goes through having a child. My wife just had a baby, and if I had these thoughts she would kill me. Why not ask her to go the gym with you, or you watch your child so she can go to the gym. Do you expect her to bounce back right after having a baby. Do not cheat you might lose the best things in your life for good.
2006-07-20 17:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by freeman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mustn't love your wife very much to consider cheating only after a few months of marriage. She had a baby and put on weight, maybe if you loved her regardless of her weight problem she would sense that and want to lose weight. She has let herself go because she feels unattractive in your eyes for sure.
2006-07-20 17:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't cheat on her, I know when couples get in a relationship its easy to just let yourself go especially after having kids.. I know its exhausting to raise baby.. If you really don't have feelings for her anymore just let her know, I have been cheated on many times and it hurts really bad.I would of rather been told he didn't want to be with me then sneak around on me and cheat..Buy her a outfit, take her out to dinner and discuss your feelings. Even sometimes if u start acting more interested in her maybe she will start cleaning up more to try and impress you.. Or if she does something u like let her know so she will keep on doing it.. I'm glad you are thinking and not just running out there and messing around
2006-07-20 17:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Let herself go" physically only, or she's taken up some harmful habits?
If she just looks less attractive, you could discuss this with her, in a sensible manner but expressing your concern/problem.
If your marriage was solely based on physical attraction, she might get back in shape. But you must remember that bearing a child is a huge effort. It is your child after all that affected her body shape.
Cheating is useless and self-destructive. Talk to her. Find a solution.
:-)
2006-07-20 17:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by Andreba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...how shallow are you? She just had your child and you wanna cheat on her because she doesn't look the same anymore? Thats pretty self centered of you.
Try to motivate her to get back in shape. Go with her for walks, buy her a gym membership - do somethign constructive, not something that is going to cause drama in your marriage and destroy your marriage.
2006-07-20 17:11:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋