2006-07-20 16:32:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be safe babe....he could have killed you....you deserve to be loved,cared for and protected. Many of us are looking for a gal like you. Come to Colorado and find me!
2006-07-20 16:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bolder 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Do you want to go back to him because you love him or because you feel you have no other options?
He could suffer from a rage or personality disorder that caused him to do this. If he has gotten help and is on medication and receiving therapy, this is a good possibility this may never happen again. Mental illness can be successfully controlled.
If physical violence was a pattern for him, then being hospitalized probably did not help and returning to him would be a mistake
You should get counseling by yourself simply to deal with the situation. If you are contemplating going back to him, you both need to be in counseling together for quite some time before you share a house together again. I'm very sorry this happened to you and I wish you all the best.
2006-07-20 23:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough subject...What was it about the guy you found attractive in the first place? Looney bin is kind of immature don't you think? Any way! Did he go to anger management on his own or because the court made him...It really matters!! Have you ever heard you can take a horse to water but you can't make him drink?...Yes the guy is an *** and if he did it supposedly to keep you in line then ..leave the guy this is just the beginning ...If it happened while he was drunk then don't let him get drunk..He probabl;y has a handle on it..!! Did he do it because he thought you were cheating then ..Yes it was wrong but hey a guy can only take so much!! You decide..!! But he probaly is just an immature butthead and you need to get out while you still can!!
2006-07-20 23:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Never, Not a chance. He is so not worth it. A life of being a punching bag for the man who is in and out of jail (if not yet, it is coming) and then the looney bin. Next time he might kill you. You are young and pretty. You can do better. He needs years to work this out. Don't hang around and wait. Trust me, He will not be motivated to change if you are there. He already hit you, he is lost to you for good.He will never respect you if you come back. I have been there and done that. I watched most of my friends do the same. Don't stay. Please love yourself more than that.
2006-07-20 23:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a chance, and go to counseling with him, and also for myself. If he reverts back, or sends signals, that you know are triggers to the same violent behaviour, the leave, but be disqreet about it, get some backup from the police, or carry a cell phone at all times. Talk to his counselor first before you try to resume your old life with him again. Garnet
2006-07-20 23:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Garnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can decide. but you need an expert opinion. this is a serious problem. you're a battered wife and it might fall as a felony or something. so hurry get some help from the authorities. you need to save your marriage but not in exchange for your life, health or dignity.
2006-07-20 23:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by gaucherive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as there was some type of disorder that wasnt his fault. but 99% of the time you can see it coming and you get help before it happens.
some mental problems cant be that persons fault and they should be held accountable but not as much as a sane person.
2006-07-20 23:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you go back u really need to question whats wrong with you because if u feel thats what u deserve then that an even bigger problem than him hitting u
2006-07-20 23:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by khalilah w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because violent situations only get worse they dont get better. and noone deserves that kind of treatment love isnt suppose to hurt if he loved you he wouldnt hit you. its probarly not the first time and want be the last
2006-07-20 23:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by eyes_kitty_green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get hit once, you will get hit again. Right now he's sorry and will change......blah blah blah. You have to respect your self more than that to sit around and let it happen again
2006-07-20 23:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by Spice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋