My bf is a great ,caring & wonderful person...BUT he gets really jealous. He checks my cell phone to see who I call, he asks my friends where i am all the time & who im with, & if I buy a nice outfit he gets suspicious and wonders who I am trying to look nice for.
He also checks the names in my cell phone & if he sees a guy's name he'll starts asking me all kinds of questions like "who is he? how do u know him? is he single? why do u need his number anyway?"
I've told him to stop before but he just gets emotional & says he only does it because he cares & that he'll never do it again. But like a week later he goes back to doing it.
what should i do?
2006-07-20 16:25:19 · 19 answers · asked by Jam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like he's quilty of cheating...bury him in the back yard.
2006-07-20 16:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mercedes_82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP!!! You are about to be abused & it's Hell trying to get out!! Signs of an abuser:
1. Possesive & jealous
2. Isolating you from friends & family
3. Getting angry over little things
4. Doesn't trust you & accuses you of cheating
You need out NOW! Tell everyone you know about his behavior. Break up with him immediately & tell the police. Get a restraining order if necessary (it probably will be soon) Change your home & cell #'s. NEVER go out alone. I am not over reacting your life may be in danger!
2006-07-20 16:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is trouble!!
He is just your boy friend....NOT your father, husband or anything like that.....WHY does he have to know who you talk to all the time? WHY does he need to know how you spend your time?
He is showing the CLASSIC signs of an abuser!!
*jealousy
*anger
*possesiveness
*lying..(saying it won't happen again yet it does)
*isolating you from your friends
If this is "LOVE"....honey, you do NOT need it!!
This guy has issues to deal with and even though you say you "love" him, its best to separate yourself from him before something worse happens to you!!
What happens when he gets physical with you? He will beat you down saying "look what YOU made me do".....making you look like the person in the wrong while he becomes even more powerful over you!!
2006-07-20 16:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by cjs702002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All boys say the word sorry and I will never do it again. And if you cant have male friends then you dotn need him, cause you have to be friends before lovers and he dotn sound like that to me. Just let him know that words dont mean anything unless he can put action with it.
2006-07-20 16:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to trust you otherwise what's the point of being together. and that if he doesn't trust you you might as well each go your own way
but i think that it's really hard for someone to stop being jealous maybe he had a bad experience in the past or has a really low self esteem
2006-07-20 16:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha!! do the same thing to him.. check his cell phone.. everytime you see a girl talking to him ask him who the gurl was and why is he talking to her.. then when he go out with his friends ask him to go out with you instead and if he tries to argue.. tell him that that's exactly what you feel when he's like that to you.. let him feel the same way so that he'll understand you're feelings..
2006-07-20 16:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by aiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters you have to know that there is a high chance he wont change and that he will probably get worse and more possessive of you. my cousin was with a girl exactly the same. it got to the point where she would put him down, to shatter his confidence so he would think no one would ever want him and he would always stay with her. jeolous dont change, they get worse. oh n after 9 years he finally left her.
2006-07-20 16:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is a little more than just jealous.......I dealt with a guy like that for about a year and it ended up that I broke up with him and he was found in my backyard by the police with a shotgun........Be careful about men like this, if they don't get help to control their compulsiveness, it can get really ugly....I would break up with him before it is too late.........Take care,dear.......
2006-07-20 16:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start doing it to him so he can see what he is doing he doesnt intentionally mean to do it but he needs his eyes opened to what he is doing if he is willing to go to anger management classes which deals with the jelousy stuff then thats great but the best idea is to start checking up on him and checking his phone the sa,me way he does to you
2006-07-20 16:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red Flag here!! He will never get better, only worse...get out of this relationship. Be sure you share this news with family, incase he carries things too far, before you leave.
2006-07-20 16:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by nana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋