Any of you been around other people who are negative/toxic that they literally drain you mentally or physically? If so, tell me your stories. And also, what do you do to defend/protect yourselves.
2006-07-20 16:24:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
This person is both toxic and supermeganegative. She´s been under a lot of pain throughout her life and has this paranoia of everything and everybody attacking her. She is manipulative, control freak, egocentric to the bone, addictive to drugs, tobacco, gambling, problems and makes up the worst stories about you or anybody in her path.
While everybody is saying and thinking she´s gone I thought I could be more empathetic and merciful towards her...but after 7 months, 24x7 I´ve had it, and precisely last monday I told her the worst offensive words I could imagine to bring her to reality, and honestly speaking only helped her to snap and swear like a sailor.
Her daughters couldn´t stand it anymore, her family only drain her when they need money but have stayed apart...her friends "longtime friends" have dissapeared and she only has one friend left, let´s see how long she can put up with the whole situation.
It is amazing how people can just not let go, avoid moving on and rather live in the past...if you have a mental condition and don´t seek for help you will only get worst and will deeply hurt the people around you.
I´ve had an awful week but I know I will succeed because this person and I are in business, so the soon it´s over the better...in the meantime I will cope with stress with workout and praying.
If you knew her you might of think that she has a million defects, but the only one that matters and the one keeping her apart from family and friends is that she is not responsible for her own behavior and blaming everybody else is very comfortable!
God Bless you for your question...I was dieing to get it out of my system...
2006-07-20 16:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mesja 4 · 10⤊ 5⤋
Yes, plenty of these people are around me. One such person was a family member, and he didn't really "drain" me mentally or physically, just played a major role in making me believe that I'm the scum of this planet, a dumbo, and couldn't do anything. And what did I do? I just stopped caring what he did or said. The sarcastic remarks didn't bother me anymore. And I tried to answer back when appropriate. Now I don't care at all. No kidding.
2006-07-20 23:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by scholar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew some girls in college who were that way (I gave, and they took). I tried to keep up the friendships, but after awhile I decided I had to just walk away and not look back. I am SO much happier now that I have flung away those negative influences and have healthy, reciprocal, long-time friendships. Many times you don't even know how much you are being drained until you have left the situation.
2006-07-20 23:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do. They never have anything positive to say and it's always "wo is me." The stuff they complain about is not earth shattering either. I think they are effected physically because they are so negative they end up being sick all the time.
I cannot think of a way to tell them to snap out of it... I just try to say something positive for each negative... this seems to just bring about even more negative comments.
2006-07-20 23:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you a story about this guy I knew in college. I'll call him BB. BB was in law school, but cheated his way in by faking his grades from under grad work. He took control of my best friend in some totally strange Platonic relationship and made my friend his b*tch. Whenever I went over their he'd want to talk to me about politics since we both sat on the opposite end of the political spectrum and I'd defend myself as best I could against what I thought was totally whack and what he'd thought was undeniable. After a while I started to agree with him on everything, just to get him to stop talking to me. I knew I'd never change his views and I'd never change mine. So I saw no point listening to his wackiness. Eventually he got the hint and politics were dropped when I came over.
2006-07-20 23:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by cancerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Identify who they are, maintain awareness of the potential threat to your mental state, and limit your interactions with them. If that's not possible, ie it's your boss or co-worker, create a tactful way to discuss it with them. People are often raised like that and are unaware of their negative impact they have on others. Worst case, you get fired. At least you won't be around them anymore.
2006-07-20 23:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl i work with takes so much caffiene/ephedrine she literally shakes from head to toe..her eyeballs shake when she's lookin at ya! she literally popped the lens out of her glasses wrenching them around to make em stay on her head! anyway, she's a bit illiterate, uneducated and needy/clingy. she follows me around like a puppy and b*tches and moans about her kids and boyfriend who just wants her to leave. after eight hours i'm running for the door!!!!
2006-07-20 23:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by nascarmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents.... two words.... alcoholism + codependancy
2006-07-21 00:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋