i am engaged to be married next year the problem is my ex keeps calling me to see him and i do i still luv him

Question

i love it when he calls me . no we are not sexually active with one another. i feel comfort from him. we date for 5 years. i never got over him i dont think i ever will. he wasn my true love. i am 34 and i want to make sure that i give my heart to the right guy

Answer 1

If you love someone else, I would suggest you back off the marriage thing, for his sake at least.

Answer 2

I'm a little confused here. You are engaged...but yet you are still hanging with your ex. You need to decide what you want. It is not fair to you, the fiance', or the ex. You can't play both sides. If you don't know whether or not you are giving your heart to the right guy, sounds like you shouldn't be engaged at all. Marriage is serious. It is 100% of the both of you 100% of the time for the rest of your life. That is a big step and you should not settle.

Answer 3

No your problem is that you keep answering your phone when he calls. If you love the man your going to marry then it would no question to tell your ex that your getting married and to move on and leave you alone. If your already engaged why are you still wondering if your giving your heart to the right guy.

Answer 4

So it's the "attention" you crave?

If you are engaged, that means in your heart of hearts, you know and have already decided that he is the one you want to share your life with. If you don't know that for sure, then you shouldn't be engaged, that isn't fair to him.

Your ex has no respect for you or he wouldn't be putting you in a situation to even be thinking the way you are right now.

I really believe that you already do know...... you do know who you want to spend your life with and it's the guy you are engaged to right now...... it's just that the flesh is so strong, it's kind of like a struggle within you.... you want to move on and be married but when it comes down to it, it's not always easy to let go of your past in order to do it.

Go with your heart not your feelings -

Answer 5

I'll have to are with the first poster, sounds like you should call off the wedding. You will only be giving marriage a bad name by getting married to someone while still having strong feelings to someone else. Do the right thing and marry that person you still have feelings for and not your current finance.

Answer 6

u sying u engaged to be married but u still love and see ur ex. what are u doing with ur fiance then. your just leading ur ex on and soon u will be sexually active with one another. And how can u say u love him and ur engaged dont u love ur fiance or just leading him on too. This is like a game ur playing with the both of them. You need to stop and tell ur fiance how u fell about ur ex. but i warn u it will turn out bad. But the question is does ur ex still love u? Dont make that mistake on leaving ur fiance unless ur sure cause like the saying says and i quote "You dont know what u have until u lose it" and thats a fact.

Answer 7

You need to either postpone the wedding or break off the engagement (leaning more toward #2). You don't seem ready to marry your fiance since you obviously still have strong feelings for your ex. It's not fair to any of the parties involved in this triangle to stay engaged to one man when you love another.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Why did you guys break up in the first place? It's not very often that the problems that break a couple up magically disapper after they are away for awhile so it's very likely if you leave your fiance for this man you may end up with alone again. But it's also not fair for you to marry your fiance without loving him completely, maybe you need some time by yourself with no boyfriends to sort out your feelings.

Answer 9

Most likely if you still love each other you be with each other. My ex still call me and I;m married but whenever he calls my heart melts and I wonder what it'll be like if I was still with him. If you feel comfort then why not let him comfort you for the rest of your life together. You never forget your first love no matter how long it's been.

Answer 10

properly...i quite don't understand. In a considering i'm doing an similar ingredient. i guess? I dated a guy in extreme college he became my previous love he cheated on me he wrote me a be conscious to inform me he became sorry we became in contact for a 365 days or so after the chop up then we lost contact. about a a million a million/2 years in the past he got here upon me on the internet and informed me the he became married with somewhat female and became utilising for a job in our living house state yet my reaction became that i became engaged and using be married in June 09. We nevertheless are in contact and write decrease to and fro and talk about the kin. i will not talk about our previous. we've under no circumstances talked on the phone or meet. He has requested me too yet i will not attempt this. i love my fiance to a lot to attempt this.

Answer 11

Sounds like you have already given your heart to someone and you should deal with those feelings instead of being engaged to someone else. How would you feel if the guy your engaged to said he would marry you even though he was in love with someone else? Don't cheat yourself or your "fiance".