I have a wonderful bfriend- he treats me great, very affectionate, we've been 2gether for 2 yrs, anyway, I can't stop freaking out & I don't know how to stop. I'm constantly checking up on him and looking through his calls and even make up scenarios in my head that he's cheating even though I've never had any rational reason or evidence to think so and I've told him & he swears on God that nothing has ever happened, and offered to go to counseling w/ me and everyone goes on about how much he adores me but I cant get it out of my head- help!!!!
2006-07-20 16:08:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take him up on his offer to go to counseling. Just being male and offering to do that says he cares about you. Don't let the jealousy ruin the relationship.....and IT WILL. Take the steps to better the situation for both of you.
2006-07-20 16:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by geni 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two words baby. "Self security". I would take your boyfriend up on his offer for counseling. A former friend of mine's marriage ended because his wife had the same tendancies you just described, even after 18 years of marriage.
2006-07-20 23:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your b/f he wants to go to counseling with you...ACCEPT HIS OFFER...this is rare soo don't let it slip away.
As far as what you are doing...it sounds like that you are insecure and you don't trust him. I don't think this is healthy. If you keep doing what you are doing you WILL push him away!!! Is there some underlying reason you feel that you need to check up on your boyfriend????
2006-07-20 23:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have ever been one to cheat, then this could be the source of your paranoia, or have you ever been cheated on before? Maybe you lost trust in all men. If he's really good looking, keep checking on him. It seems they all succumb to temptation.
2006-07-20 23:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by lavenderbluelassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him up on his offer and go counseling i am male and if he is ofering this to you HE IS SINCERE most men wont offer counseling he really loves you and cares for you just find out the root of your fear and then give it up
good luck hun
2006-07-21 01:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him on his word and go to counseling.
This insecurity will damage your relationship to a point in which, even if you want to, he will no longer will adore you.
2006-07-20 23:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what he said and go to counseling. sounds like he really adores you
2006-07-20 23:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get the answer, please let me know. My fiance was very insecure, always checking up on me even though I'd never cheat on her.
2006-07-20 23:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do something
if you don't something will blow, it might be him, it might be you but if you don't accept him, trust him, talk to him you will lose him or you will drift apart and separete.
Love is special, a relationship is wonderful but both must be upkept by both sides
2006-07-20 23:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Karce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first boyfriend, and young; calm down before he leaves you or do cheat it will be you pushing because you r accusing him of it.
2006-07-20 23:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by Roe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋