we never have any time alone and this does not bother him at all. We always had time in the begining of our relaionship, but it's less and less all the time. He has full custody of his kid's, I also love spending time with them as well, but I feel we need to build a solid relationship...somehow. When i bring it up I feel immature and selfish and his reaction is always, "things will change when we are married" that's scary to me!!! I feel sometimes that maybe me being more of a "Mommy" is more important to him than my being a "woman". What do you think?
2006-07-20 16:07:03 · 8 answers · asked by madchowawa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think its important for you to be both....when you have the kids, do YOU have anything to do with them? Or do you just sorta ignore them? Try asking him to be alone with you....whisper in his ear that you want a romantic evening...just the two of you.....you offer to pay for the babysitter......Good luck!! Feel free to mail me if you wanna talk!!
2006-07-20 16:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a man worth marrying, you dont want to come across as having a problem with him putting his kids first, bcse you'll be out on your bum... if he's a real man. As a father with sole custody he's supposed to be considering your fitness as a "mother" over "being a woman"/Vagina's aren't hard to come by sweetheart and all dogs can be taught tricks... If you want to prove yourself truly valuable, "the one" show him you can support him with his most important role as a man, being a father. If you're good at it then the two of you will have plenty of opportunity to spend quality time with one another. Once the kids needs are met, he;s free to see about your needs... If the kids are happy... he'll be happy. good Luck ; )
2006-07-20 16:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Drose119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a relationship with the father of two children you need to be accepting of the fact that you are not the most important person in his life. His children should and probably will always mean more to him than you do. If you aren't willing to accept that then for the sake of all involved be honest enough with yourself and with him to tell him you're jealous of two little kids and too immature to be married.
2006-07-20 16:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think about his priorities, they are to his kids, which is good. But, seeing how he's planning on putting you on a front burner as well, he needs to make some "us" time for just the two of you. He probably doesn't notice it, cuz he's had all the time to adjust to his kids, where you're relatively new to the whole Mom thing, and you notice how they're in every part of his life....so, I'd advise that you make a special date night or something....Good luck!
2006-07-20 16:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should've known what u were getting yourself into when u entered a relationship with a man with children...but
get a baby sitter & plan a night out for just the 2 of u.
2006-07-20 16:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think in time it will get better , just don't take it out on his kids. don't be jealous of them or treat them bad . even when ppl have kids together they have to divide their time , so try not worrying so much . I'm sure the 2 of you will figure it out and have plenty of time together , so relax
2006-07-20 16:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your gut feeling is right on target. Go with it.
2006-07-20 16:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by lavenderbluelassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and find someone else.
2006-07-20 23:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋