Ok, well Ive been seeing a guy named Josh for 2 months 8 days. I mistakingly rushed into it, I barely even know the guy but I thought he seemed nice enough. Anyway since its summer we've only been on like 2 dates. On the second date, his cousins and friends were there with him. We kissed, just innocent pecks, 5 times. Because his cousins wanted to see. these were my first times. The wholleeeee time he was all over me ( we were at the local movie theatre) and I just wanted to get the hell out of there. Now he keeps calling me and I'm actually scared of my own flippin boyfriend. I know I was an idiot and rushed into this, but what should I do?
2006-07-20 15:27:47 · 15 answers · asked by Taylor Lee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Max whatever- we didnt have sex for gods sake. all we did was kiss but he was all over me.
2006-07-20 15:31:54 · update #1
Tell him, on the phone,that that behavior is not OK with you. If he apologizes and then doesn't do this in the future, maybe it will be OK. If he, in any way, tries to make excuses or minimizes your concerns, then dump him right away!
You're right. You should not have rushed into a b/f-g/f relationship
before you got to know him. It sounds like you still don't really know him. Even if he changes his behavior, it sounds like you need to cool it with him and get to know him before you call him your b/f again.
I just read Mr. Ninja and jetsetsoaper's advice. Boy are they stupid! Their advice is axactly what not do do!
2006-07-20 15:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You really should just let him know that your not really into having a boyfriend right now. If you don't like him you are really just wasting both of your time. Tell him what you said in your question. That you just rushed into it. Tell him that he is really nice and all, but your not really wanting a relationship right now.
Don't ever do anything that you are not comfortable doing. This can lead to a lot of mistakes and possibly worse (such as rape, peer pressure etc. *personal experience*)
If you aren't sure what to say, highlight the main points on a piece of paper. Then call him. That way you pretty much know what you are going to say before you call.
Your doing the right thing getting this over know. You will feel much more comfortable when you don't have some weirdo calling you all of the time.
Good luck sweetie!
2006-07-20 22:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by twisteddistance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on if he is dominant or not...a good idea might be to come on to him, but every time he trys something...tell him not yet with a kinky smile and give him a kiss.....that way u will still have good control and u can wait, but u wont hurt him , and if u decide to date him or do all they way....it will make it that much better....teasing is sometimes a really good way to avoid having sex.
(this may be a bit over dooing it but...)
and besides....(though kinda off topic) it always gives u a self esteem boost knowing that the second this guy gets home hes gunna have to touch himself to the thought of u!!!
2006-07-20 22:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him back so he'll quit calling you, and tell him the deal. and if he doesn't agree, find some bigger guys to influence him. i'm not saying resort to violence, just get your brother or someone with a deep voice to scream into the phone telling him to stay away. if he's that violent, file a restraining order. if you're under 18, talk to your parents. they can help you out, as much as you don't want to believe it.
2006-07-20 23:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i was in the same boat and i told him that i think we rushed it and really need to slow down and i hated how he ALWAYS called but it is a sign that he really cares about you. i am sure you dont want to sound rude telling him to stop calling you but try calling him more so he doesnt have to call you or so he can see how annoying it is.
2006-07-20 23:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kay-Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, give him a call tell him how you feel and if he can respect that then he is not worth your time. don't let no one scare you or rush you in what you don't want to do.
good luck!
2006-07-20 22:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by shania02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you pt'd him and now your afraid, good for you. you should feel that way. start taking it slow, and make sure he wants you for you and not whats in your pants. don't put out to fit in. put out when you truely feel ready, and want to commit and feel your partner feels the same way, or he is going to think of you as a booty call.
2006-07-20 22:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Smallwood c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive been a guy for a while, i would prefer that you just told me straight up if i was him. dont make up excuses, just tell him the truth and move on depending on how he responds.
2006-07-20 22:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Isaiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you asked for it...didn't you? Now all you have to do is tell him straight. If he would not listen or accept it....make a report...a POLICE REPORT....have seen some unwilling violent break-ups these days....
2006-07-20 22:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by waterdancer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just tell him how you feel. tell him that you dont want to be in a really physical relationship yet. if he doesnt understand, then hes not worth your time or your cherry, sweetheart!!
2006-07-20 23:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by K to the C from the C to the K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋