2006-07-20 15:01:14 · 20 answers · asked by libby71763 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are giving him everything he would get if you were married why should he marry you. He has it all now with out the legal binding. Ever heard the phrase - why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?????
Good luck.
2006-07-20 15:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Toni 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol. Why won't he marry you? Did you see the world outside, have you seen how the character of society or even the trials and tribulations folks have been put thru? The reason he won't marry you is because he is self centered around security, stability, and committments all wrapped up in one ball. I bet he tries to spoil himself or either correct the wrong often. He needs the full understanding from you to committ on a marriage. There is something that will trigger his interest. That is when all signs he is looking for is answer or either he see all signs of what he is NOT looking for is gone away. He want to make sure everything is good for his investment in a life time committment. Have you ever lived with regrets? Making a good decision the next time effects you judgement in the future. He may not be ready hisself as he may see he has the problem and don't wanna hurt you either. THis may be kept private as he is just learning how to ACT like a man let alone be one. This is rare and that's how you can tell real love, but most men would have the first problem mentioned below. If i was to guess what he is looking for... i would guess... a friend to confide to, a woman who is sweet and courteous, a women who satisfies him sexually, a rider (person willing to side with him on wrong OR right decisions) as well as a person who stands up for themself represention all of the traits similar to him. Be good to him and make sure you are really seeing all the signs of a married couple and not just great boyfriend/girlfriend relations. Passion and intimacy are common signs of the relations direction as well as the excessive need to make communication clear and meaningful. Stay in there and don't but a clock on happiness as long as its ticking! Good luck and be smart, safe, and successful!
2006-07-20 22:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by carolinakres 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just afraid of the "M" word . . . silly, I know. My husband and I were together for 13 years and finally married a month before our youngest was born. Don't give up hope. Everything will work out just the way it's suppose to be. Good luck!
2006-07-20 22:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends? How long have you been together? He might not feel he is ready and remember this you get to know the person you are going to marry. There are signs in a relationship that will show you. If there are no signs pointing in a wrong direction he might be afraid that once you both get married that things will change. Have you decussed marriage with him? If you love him and he loves you it might take awhile it took me 7yrs. to marry mine.
2006-07-20 22:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by unsure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you let him get comfortable with the situation as it is. Try lighting a fire under his bum and talk to him about marriage. Get his point of view. Ask him straight out why he hasn't married you yet. Or try asking him to marry you. I guess it all depends on how you feel toward the situation and if you can handle just being his girlfriend.
2006-07-20 22:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything? Do you have kids together? Commitment is a struggle for lots of people and your guy is scared!! Even though it is easier to leave if your not married!! Is that what your afraid of? If this is not up to your standards..then leave and find some one that will commit!!
2006-07-20 23:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realy need that peice of paper to say you love some one, maybe he feels he shouldnt have to marrie you if you love each other so much or maybe he is concerned that you still have to many issues to over come before wanting to make that kind of commitment.Talk to him and tell him your concerns , open the lines of communications and maybe he will tell you himself but you must keep an open mind and respect his decisition as well.If you realy love him it shouldnt matter about that tiny piece of paper.
2006-07-20 22:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by sht4brains4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i can say is to be very careful in forcing him to marry you, as some people once they put the ring on your finger they change and some of them is for the worse.
2006-07-20 22:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE QUESTION OF A LIFE TIME...MY GRANDMA USE TO SAY WHY BUY THE COW IF THE MILK IS FREE......
YOU DO EVERYTHING FOR OUR MAN AND HE HAS IT MADE... LOTS OF GUYS DON'T LIKE COMMITMENT AND IF THEY ARE GETTING IT ALL... ALREADY... THEN WHY BOTHER... SAD THING...NOW THE QUESTION IS IF YOU KNEW A HEAD OF TIME WOULD YOU STILL HAVE DATED HIM...WHAT TO DO NOW EXPLAIN HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO YOU AND IF HE CARES ENOUGH HE WILL DO IT FOR THE BOTH OF YOU.. HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN TOGETHER?
2006-07-20 22:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause he doesn't have to if he has all the privileges of marriage (sex) without the responsibility or accountability.
No offense, but don't you get it. Sex outside of marriage produces no responsibility for a guy so why should they need or want to get married?
2006-07-20 22:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋