he is 4 years old, has a big and little brothers, he is so mean to me, and i fill hurt
2006-07-20 14:44:22 · 19 answers · asked by sweetfinadulce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Put them in a time out chair until they apoligize.
Let them know you wont tollerate that kind of talk. But I dont believe you are cut out for this nanny job your to emotional, and if the children know this they will make it even harder on you.
2006-07-20 14:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't take this behaviour personally (as much as it does hurt your feelings). You're a professional nanny and you need to step back and really focus on what might be the cause of his anger toward you. I suspect he's probably needing a bit moe alone time with his mom so that he can feel more secure with you when she's away. You should talk to her (and to his dad) about your observations of his behavior, making sure to do so in a loving and caring way. He's just four years old, and probably needs a little more love and attention. He also needs as structured a day as possible so he knows what to expect when he's under your care. It's not easy being the kid in the middle. Good luck!
2006-07-20 14:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it hurt you, this is what four year olds do to try and get their way. Be very firm with him and make him respect you and his brothers. A little spanking would be okay too. Kids naturally are selfish and will say almost anything no matter how hurtful it is to get their way. Don't take it personally, i'm sure you are a wonderful nanny.
2006-07-20 14:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to the child don't talk down to him and ask why he hates you and try to work through it with him. You can tell him he may hate you but does he love you cos you still love him even though he Say's he hates you . y ou could make it like a game ,
ask him to say 1 way he hates you for then you reply with 1 reason you love him , involve the other children if you can , you don't have to start with that question you could start with what veg he hate etc, hope you manage to sort the problem out because more than likely its just a phase he's going through all the best marilyn
2006-07-20 15:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by minimal123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call SuperNany....nah, just kidding... He's only 4? He's probobly not quite sure what that means. I think your reaction when he said it is what counts. I had this happen when my son was 5 (he heard it in daycare). I told him "Well, that is really sad, because I love you." I've never heard it again.
More then likely this 4 yr old heard it from his brothers (boys will be boys) dont let it bother you as an adult. He doesnt know what he is saying. Just reafirm to him that you love him.
2006-07-20 14:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's in charge? Who the child? Your feelings are hurt,whats the mater with you.He just wants his way. My own kids told me that. ignore it,go ahead and do what he is saying he hate you for. Keep control of the situation. But if this bothers you maybe you should get another career
2006-07-20 14:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by bocece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that's fine, but you love him anyhow. And give him a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Of course he'll resist at first, but you can make it into kind of a game. Everytime he tells you that, give him that treatment. Eventually he'll quit saying it, and may even come to really love you and the attention you give him.
2006-07-20 14:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by doggiemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask permission to spank that child,he needs an old fashioned. When he does this next time ask him to stand in a corner untill he can appoligize fully. That means to say he's sorry and for what.
2006-07-20 14:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him to understand what he is doing with his nanny. He is only 4 years old. He will reasonably come to understand. Please be patient and he will be alright. This age is also very annoying and at this age they are very mischievious and do not like any criticism. So please be patient and there is no other way to deal with such kids.
2006-07-20 14:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand this. If my son (almost three) did this, he wouldn't live to tell about it. He needs anger management...poor thing. He also sounds like he's never experienced discipline in his entire life.
Start leaving him out of fun activities with the other children. Tell him, straighten up your attitude, or sit out.
2006-07-20 14:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋