My ex and I were engaged and when we split up I gave him the ring back. (Roughly two months ago) He now says he wants me to have the ring as he cannot stand having it around and doesn't have the heart to sell it and any advice on the legal aspect?
Much appreciated!
I cannot keep this ring, it would bother me to have it around, and while I feel wrong selling it, I'd rather do that than have it in my jewelry box.
I've offered to sell it and give him the money, sell it and split the money, or anything else to make it easier for him to get rid of it, but he's not interested.
I think legally the ring belongs to him since it was not given on a holiday or birthday, therefore it was not a 'gift'. Does him giving it back to me again make it like a gift though? I don't want him to come back to me a year from now and demand the money if I do decide to sell it. So should I sell it?
2006-07-20 14:30:35 · 19 answers · asked by KiyaJay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm very sorry to hear about what happened, and I understand why you both feel this way about the ring.
Legally, the ring is currently yours: he gave it to you when you were engaged, you gave it back to him when you split up, now he's given it to you again. It doesn't have to be a birthday or a holiday to give someone a gift, all you need to do is give something to them and tell them that it's theirs. He could try asking for it back in the future, but legally he doesn't have a leg to stand on. If you don't trust him, I suppose you could ask him for a signed and dated written note saying that he's giving it to you and it's your to keep or do with as you see fit.
The polite thing to do would be to find a way of disposing of the ring that you both feel OK with, and then do it.
Some possible ways of disposing of it:
1) Sell it (on eBay, to a jeweler, whatever). You could keep the money, split the money, return it all to him, buy him something with it, or donate it to a charity that you both like.
2) Donate the ring to a charity, maybe one that runs a thrift store.
3) Have a jeweler melt it down for you, and then sell the metal and any gems to the jeweler (it'll be worth less this way, but this way you'll know no-one else is wearing it). Again, you could keep the money, split the money, return it all to your ex, buy him something with it, or donate it to a charity that you both like.
4) Throw the ring into the ocean, a deep lake, or somewhere else it's not coming back from.
5) Go downtown and hand the ring to the first vagrant who asks you for change.
2006-07-20 15:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There have been legal cases where the court has decided that accepting the ring is the same as entering into a contract & if you don't hold up your end (go through with the wedding) you are required to give the ring back. However, in this case, he has given up his right to that several times. If I were you, I'd keep it for awhile to make sure he doesn't change his mind. Then, sell it but keep half the money to the side. If he still doesn't ask for it, then keep it.
2006-07-20 21:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by luckyirishgirl2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it back. Yes, it was given to you - but it was given to you with the intent of marriage. Since you are not marrying him I think the graceful thing to do is to return the ring.
He can do what he likes with it. Keep it, sell it, throw it in a river. That's not your problem.
2006-07-20 21:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Leesa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the ring for one year then see which option looks like a good idea to you...personally I like the sell it and split the money
2006-07-20 21:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is abviously still in love with you . i know selling it would breing you some money. but hunn it's best to give it back because it will save you and him alot of heart and head ache..
it would let him know that it's over and over all it would bring you and him joy in the long run..
good luck and hope you make the right decission. whatever it is.. =)
2006-07-20 21:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by camvett97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your over thinking this issue - sell the ring, go to Vegas and have a good time (assuming he wasn't a cheap ***)
2006-07-20 21:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ted Hose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i think he gave it to you, therefore you can do what you want with it. a gift doesn't have to be given on a special holiday to be a gift. i don't really think there's any legal aspect to worry about, but i'm no expert.
2006-07-20 21:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie_pepper2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell it or donate it to charity. Neither of you wants it around. Donating it would be a nice neutral way to give it away that you both should be happy with.
2006-07-20 21:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by fishing66833 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gave it back to you. It's yours. I kept mine. I have 3 of them. Right now you might not want it but if you keep it and come across it later, it's a nice memento of a life once lived.
2006-07-20 21:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have it melted down into a pendant and put it on a necklace. My aunt used to get a lot of rings from men, and that's what she did.
2006-07-20 21:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by kyeann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋