if divorce = marriage is over! I think the ex wife should.?

Question

should be court order to return to her maiden name. for she is no longer the ex husbands wife.
if she claimed that she don't love him and she was the one who filed. now I'm the new wife and
i'm getting her bill collectors calling me getting me mixed up with her. We have changed our phone but it does not stop. if they could look up ss# they would know im not her. its been 6 years now.

there marriage was bad after working all day he'd come home, clean house cook dinner, take care of the kids by the way to lilly we have
the kids she was caught in adultry and with drugs. my husbands a wonderful man when God made him he broke the mold. he provides
and does all he can. Matter fact he's a doctor. also im wife # 3 his first wife die two year after there marriage. So to people who want to
judge please for give me for not giving better details .

Answer 1

People who post garbage like "Lily" should be removed from here. Suggesting that you are less of a person because you married a divorced man is absolutely ridiculous. She obviously has alot of growing up to do. Now that we got that out of the way...

I totally feel your pain. Unfortunately, even if she changed her name, this kind of thing would still happen. My wife left me; we got divorced; and she did change her name back. However, I still get mail for her; collectors call, heck, I even get calls that are for her miserable trash family.

I completely agree with mothers/exwives that keep their last name for their kids. I would think it would be wierd, for a kid, if his mom or dad did not share the same name. I realize it is fairly common now, but I still think it might be wierd. I don't know, maybe I am wrong?

Honestly, I don't guess it bothers me either way. I was sorta suprised that my exwife changed her name back, but it didn't matter to me. However, even though her name is changed back, whenever I return phone calls to her at her work, they still know her by my last name and not hers, even though it has been nearly a year.

The financial matters bug me too though. I am 100% with you on that. Heck, my exwife even used "our" name to get a loan. I would have never even known, but the lender deposited the money into my account, fortunately. Yep, what she did was completely fraudulant, and the reason she did it was to get more money at a better rate based upon my credit. I also hate all the mail I get in her name. Although, you know, it has been nearly a decade since I lived in my fraternity house and I still get mail there. It is all junk, of'course. I dont know if that will ever stop. From time to time, I get mail forwarded to me that is addressed to my grandmother that passed away in '97.

It bothers me that complete strangers like "Lily" will take time out of her day to come in here and slam you for marrying a man who is divorced. Good men get cheated on, left, divorced everyday...how can you fault him? People, sometimes, bug me!

I wish you the best!

Answer 2

all you can do is petition the court but most of the time they wont do anything becuase even if he makes her change she can turn right around and legally change her name again my ex wife granted me with giving my name back and not using it on legal paper the judge signed off and so be it. but she didnt actually stop using uts for a couple years and i was told nothing i could do. as far as bill collectors i have heard a fincial guru on the radio who said to quote him " i am not (so and so) you have not reached the right person and im not a messenger. please do not call here anymore or you will be violating the law" and that should do it. if they do call back call the beter business agency in your area and report them. and that will fix that. also get your credit report make sure somthing was mispalced as you are the new mrs not the old mrs good luck i hope this help some

Answer 3

Well.. not all exes are bad people. I didn't change my name and no bills were ever sent to my ex and his new wife. I think you're just unfortunate in that your husband's ex wife happens to be hell bent on making your lives miserable.
The reason why I didn't change my name back was because I have a son and I, being his mother, don't want to have a different name than he does. So your idea about a court order doesn't really make it fair for the children involved. They shouldn't be exposed in school to questions like: oooh.. your parents are divorced, huh. How come your mommy has a different name? etc.

Answer 4

I did not change my last name because of my kids. They were young kids and I thought having my maiden name back would just confuse them with school stuff etc.

I do get phone calls from bill collectors trying to find my ex motherinlaw. They want me to give her a message and I tell them that I am not their middleman and hang up.

Answer 5

I wanted to keep my married name for my kids sake, but then I got a phone call asking for 'mrs x hubby', I took my maiden name back the next day, told my kids they would just have to adapt haha..in fact, now I get phone calls to 'mr my last name' but it should not be court ordered, it should be choice. After all, she probably gave all she had, if she wants to keep the name, she is entitled to it. Don't know who would want to, but.. it should not be a court matter.

Answer 6

I changed my name back so I wouldn't be harrassed for the same kind of crap. He is such a loser. 2 1/2 years later he goes to the hospital and puts ME down as the responsible party. It SUCKS, huh?

Answer 7

What did you expect.. your married a divorced man.. he comes with baggage, evidently you couldn't attract anything better to marry. He gave her his name first so I feel it really is hers. And surprisingly she wants to keep it, so she must not hate him. Why not change your name back to your maiden name then there would not be a problem with collection agencies mistaking you for her.

Answer 8

My X wouldn't sign the divorce papers unless I agreed to change my name. I did.
But........ my kids begged that I keep my married name because of them. My youngest son just out of rehab begged his dad and the creep wouldn't budge. I changed it.
I am glad I changed it, but sad for my kids. Very sad. The kids must come first in this. I would ask you r kids

Answer 9

sorry, my sisters both had this same problem but they kept their married names, because they didnt have the money to change it back.
maybe she cant pay for the name change either. call the social security office and see what can be done.
but dont think so.

Answer 10

she is an a*** and is only doing it to bother you.
how are the collectors getting your number?
can't you put a block on the numbers that call?