Is there such a thing as Happily Ever After, or am I just being a nag?

Question

I have been wanting my husband to spend more qality time with me, and to help out more with the house ect. ect. I asked him if he was happy with me and he said yes, that's why i married you. He said that he is woried about the bill's and not providing enough money so we could do more. He thinks that I wan't a fairy tail, and I just wan't us to love to be with each other.

Answer 1

Money is not the answer,
Love, uderstanding, mutual agreement, and not wanting the world

Answer 2

How about sitting down with him and going over your bills. Make a budget for yourselves so that he can see that the bills are covered. You should also put in a savings account into that budget, something that money goes into but does not come out of except for emergency's. This will help him feel more secure in being able to afford all that you need. And if you don't have a job, how about getting a part time job to cover all the little extras that you two want. or to help save for that vacation, or just to pad your emergency fund, to take some of the burden off him. Once he is more relaxed about finances, things can get back on track and spending time together will be fun again.

Answer 3

I believe in "happily ever after", but that doesn't mean that you'll never have any problems or disagreements. Too me, it means that you stay 'in love' and not just love each other. Work at it, do at least one thing alone each week. If there is no $, take a walk, flirt with each other, surprise him with a "quickie''. Ask him to write you a love letter and you do the same. Put on a video for the kids and meet him in the bathroom or closet. Make a game out of it. Have fun and enjoy each other. Life is short.

Answer 4

Being a nag will not get you the "happily ever after" ending. Heck you don't even have to nag and guy will still call a simple comment nagging. You will be waiting forever for him to "want" to spend time with you and even longer if you want him to actually organize the event. If you want to spend time together with your hubby you are going to have to be the one that dreams it up, organizes it, makes the reservation and has saved the money to do it. That is just the way it is. One good thing is.. once you do all of this .. they are happy to go along with it and will enjoy it (after all why wouldn't they, they didn't have to do a thing but have fun)

Answer 5

There are lots of pressures in life today but happily everafter is still possible. Dont let the small stuff bother you. LIve each day like there is no tomorrow. Money does not buy happiness. Spend time at the park taking walks or go to the lake and have a picnic. Just enjoy each moment as you have it and dont worry....be happy!

Answer 6

Honey, you have think too naive and no doubt there is nothing wrong for you to crave an urge of your husband to spend a quality time with you most of the time throughout the rest of your life.

However, please ask yourself - (a) would you want to spend happily where both you and your husband are enjoying life without any financial hassle ? or (b) would you want to see your lifestyle plain where your husband would not able to provide you a better quality of lifestyle coz he has spend too much time with you and no finding extra revenues back to home and both of you will be facing pressurised and maybe quarrelling with each other?

What your husband says you is correct - you wasn't a fairy tale and nowadays should be more realistic (not too materialistic). If both of you had children, you should think about your children's future and it is your husband's responsibilities to provide a better quality of lifestyles.

A happy family comes from a stable and financial hassle FREE.. Love is important but bread is more important and priority as it fulfills your hunger and needs.

Answer 7

SOunds like he DOES love you, but he is also concerned about the reality of keeping a roof over your head

Maybe if you spend some time WITH him going over bills, he will spend some time WITH doing housework, that way you would both be spending time together, and doing the things you are both concerned about, hopefully freeing up some stress to spend some quality time together doing fun things.

But he is obviously concerned about being financially solvent and all he hears from you is "we need to spend more time together" while he is thinking "how am I going to afford to pay the electric bill"

Answer 8

Get your head out of the clouds and look at your financial status. You can have fun but you have to be realistic. Make a PLAN and follow that plan. If you want your husband to get happy with you engage in the bills and help him make a plan to get better financed. Then he will not think that he's in it all by himself.

Check out the following website. It can answer your questions better than I can. It also gives you a "bird's eye" view of a man's psyche.

http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/

Good luck.

Answer 9

Thats how it is,i do the same thing with my wife,i work 10 to 12 hours sometimes more a day, so we can do something on the weekends,i really dont worry to much thou,i try to spend all the time i can with her & our kids. Show him not tell him.Some times we husbands arent all that great for reading minds!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My wife & iget along with what we have & we live our life in love with each other

Answer 10

Try to set up times where you have a date. It always doesn't take alot of money to have a good time. As, for the house~~~ if you both work equal hours the cleaning should be split. Nothing's a fairytale.

Answer 11

Love dont pay the bills. But you need to spend time together sometimes. You should get a job to help pay for things so he can take more time off and you can plan time off together.