When is the right time to take my son to a gender doctor to see if he wants to become a woman?

Answer 1

That depends on how the child is expressing him self . If it's causing him to become ostracized from his peers, and is hurting his self esteem it's never to early. I, myself, new by the age of four that I should have been female. I don't think anyone understood it,no one new how to treat it. But , I can attest to the fact that beatings, and peer pressure can't change who people are. These idiot homophobes that keep coming in here wouldn't last a year In our circumstance. I went to Nam, reared three kids, coached two sports spent three years with the scouts when my son was growing up. In other words I was a Girl who dressed in drag, as a man, And fooled every one of these phobics for 36 yrs.
Tammi Dee

Answer 2

Most trans-genders start identifying with being female as young as 5-6, but are not aware of what is going on and most parents interpret this as play.
Into their older years they start identifying completely and most become very confused, because they feel as if they are say, a girl of 12 or14, but they don't have the parts of girls. I think it is a question you should raise with your son.
I say at an early teen age, especially when they start sexual or intimate feelings is when he should first seek a gender reassignment psychiatrist who can help him in being sure that this is what he truly desires and wants.
In any case the sooner the better because they may be just confusing thoughts and a psychiatrist can help him evaluate them better and that way gender reassignment if necessary can begin as a young adult.

I'm not going to question if you are being serious, because out there someone feels this way and hopefully it will be useful.

Answer 3

Your child may or may not want to become a woman. You can't really assume he wants to unless he has said so himself. Sometimes children just wish to express themselves as the opposite gender and take it no further. It may even be a phase he'll grow out of.

But in any case the best time to see a doctor is when his gender issues start to interfere with his life. If your son repeatedly expresses that he wishes he were the opposite sex, that he dislikes his genitals, that he hates going through puberty because it's making his body less and less like the gender he desires to be, wonders when he going to get breasts like all the other girls, wonders when his penis is going to fall off, or when he starts to make crossdressing more and more part of his daily life, you should consult a therapist qualified in gender issues and follow their advice.

If your son becomes suicidal over his issues, starts to mutilate his genitalia, or indulge in any other destructive behavior in regards to his gender (stealing birth control pills for example), it's definitely time to seek help and take him directly to a therapist.

Answer 4

I presume this is a fraud -- but in case it isn't.

Some of your other questions tend to indicate that you are transgendered.

That DOES NOT mean that your son has any interest in being. Even if he is crossdressing at a young age -- that stands as much chance of being imitative behaviour as it does anything else. Just as gay boys temporarily try to imitate their much admired fathers or older brothers -- even though they KNOW that they have no interest in women.

If he is genuinely transgendered, then it will come out. Be supportive of him, no matter what. Love him, no matter what -- even if he wants to be --- I'm not sure, a .... a ..... LaCrosse jock (that's as far from being a crossdresser as I can get). You love him, let him love you -- and support him in everything -- and if he wants a gender doctor he will tell you -- likewise, he may not be interested in changing genders -- and may love his penis just fine the way it is. That too is TRULY ok.

Do not project.

Peace,

Reyn

Answer 5

I am totally shocked at this question. This is something you shouldn't determine for your son. You will be taken everything away from him. It is his decision when he grow up if he want to be a woman. He may not even be gay either. If you change him and he's not gay, then hell he'll be depressed big time. He may end his life because he is not what he was born with.

Don't do it. Let your son decide when he get older. He'll be glad that you did wait.

Answer 6

preferably when there young, if he desires to be a women more than anything else, do it now, cus when you get older and try to turn your body into a females the harder and more hideous your gonna look, and to give you a good example just take a look at the guys that are 50 years old and wanna turn themselves into women so id do it before he hits puberty cus permanent hair removal is a *****!!! and the sooner the better, I'm not saying every young person is gonna be presto princess but starting before puberty and in the teen years really does help out alot i can promise you that

Answer 7

I'm not sure how to even respond to this. I'm hoping that this isn't a joke because this is a very serious issue for a lot of people in this group. I hope that this is a serious question asked from a true heart and not something to poke fun at others about or to be disrespectful.

Answer 8

I'm concerned that YOU may be planting this idea in his mind. I'm open to transgendered people, but this should be his issue and not yours. You need to find a counselor who is comfortable dealing with gender issues. YOU need counseling. And your son may be affected by your issues too, so let the counselor talk with him too.

Answer 9

That decision is his. In his time he will tell you. And then if one day he comes to you and says "Hey mom I want breast and a vagina" then take him to the doctor. You don't want to ruin it, if he is already comfortable with who he is. Don't cause confusion. And don't place so much on gender. Girl.........guy..........we're all the same. Let him be who he is.

Answer 10

If I were you, i'd search for suggestion from from a GP about the pills. also, it is actual reassuring to locate one of those astounding figure who remains so loving in route of their baby in spite of listening to doubtlessly discomforting information. human beings have a tendency to understand that they are transsexual from a shockingly youthful age, so don't be wondered or a great deal surprised by technique of this - your gender is a few thing really basic to ensure. do not discourage his self-expression or make him experience uncomfortable - as you're saying, you experience he's conscious what he's putting forward. in spite of the indisputable fact that i'd propose that you tell him that he will have an truly, very puzzling time in extreme college except he's very diffused about it. extreme college toddlers should be very cruel with one of those ingredient. in spite of the indisputable fact that, in case you tell him no longer to do it, it's going to make him each and each and every of the better desirous to defy you, so do not take that frame of mind. As for the hormones and each and everything, he will be observed specialist psychologists to assist ascertain no matter if he's actual transsexual or no matter if he's purely wondered about himself, and they're going to run all sorts of complicated checks with him (very gently, reassuringly) and the GP will pick their reference before he will prescribe some thing. i doesn't propose living house education, yet i'd ask him gently to placed off the surgical operation for decades, purely to make his training as solid as plausible and as basic as plausible.