he doesn't go out much but could he still cheat?
2006-07-20 13:55:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep he sure could be.. my x husband cheated on me, and i never really saw it coming had the feeling something was wrong, but all logic said he couldnt be, cause he was home on time from work every night and other then a once in a blue moon occassion to play tennis with his best friend.. he was always home..
Stupid me.. but then again i was 22 and blinded by love...
He was messing around with a girl at work.. they went out to lunch together and did things when i "thought" he was at work.. then one night he asked if id mind him going out for a few drinks with the guys at the club on the base (he's military and he very rarely ever asked to do something like that..) i had to work that night so reluctantly (had a bad feeling) i said ok, i asked my mom to watch the kids since i had to work late and he wanted to go out.. well i ended up getting off of work early and thought cool he's been out with the guys for a few hours by himself he said he's not going to stay out very long so , i thought i'd call him up at the enlisted club and see if i could join him.. called up there, and they said Sorry hun, but we are closed now, all customers have left for the night.. (half hour ago) so i was happy thinking he'd be home any moment and we could spend the night together alone since my mom took the kids for the night.. 12 a.m., 1. am , 2 a.m. came not home, figured most bars close at 2 he should be on his way home by now.. 3 a.m. came i started to panic thinking he in a car accident , possibly in the hospital called a couple hospitals , nothing.. 4 a.m. came and all i could think of was he was hurt somewhere and i needed to find him so with out knowing where to look but freaking out from not looking for him, i jumped in my car.. just as i went up the road.. a van pulled down our street.. (he was picked up by his friend so i didnt know what kind of car they were in) sure enough the van pulled into our drive way and as i pulled in closer.. the one driving the van was a woman...he said it was a gf of one of the guys.. and i had nothing to worry about.. the next night i went to work.. and the following a.m. something in me told me to hit the redial on the phone.. and i did, and it was the same girls answering machine.. a week later he left me, less then a month later him and the girl that was driving the van moved in together.. and prior to the night out he suddenly after 7 years together was buying me flowers ALOT..come to find out it was out of guilt that he was buying them.. so yes a man can still cheat even if it doesnt look obvious..
2006-07-20 14:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
People cheat on line. He doesn't necesary "have to" go anywhere. With on line cameras and camera phones, he can trade pics and feelings via chat rooms on-line. I guess it doesn't even need to be a chat room. It could be some one he met once and now has an e-mail buddy.
Even if he's not cheating on line, there's always the phone. Spending too much time with anyone other than you whether physically or mentally will certianly drive you two apart. A lot of the time people look at it as "well it's not physical, so it's not bad." That's so not true. You should be the only woman on his mind...the only sexual visual in his head. These days the media and technology makes it too easy to slip away from your spouse.
Lonely people can feel each others pain and that's the connection. And the bad thing about this connection is that prolonged exposure will get into his head and eventually his heart. This type of relationship transcends the "old time" lay....it becomes a mental attachment that's a lot harder to let go of.
Get to the bottom of it before it's too late.
2006-07-20 14:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by cinimon_s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the more important question here is what is it that is causing you to feel this way. If there are no obvious signs then it may be a self esteem issue with you.
When people are insecure and they;re in a relationship, a little voice inside their head repeatedly tells them "you're not good enough to have a relationship so the fact that this person is here means he's looking to move on once he finds something better",
So change the vocabulary of the little voice and make it say "I totally deserve a relationship and i deserve someone who is as commited to me as I am to them". Set clear boundaries for your relationship, define each other's core values and enjoy it. Until he says "I'm cheatting". assume that he is not.
2006-07-20 14:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be cheating, but why do you feel this way? Usually when you think someone is cheating is because of something they said, didn't say, a look, not paying attention you when they always did before. Of course no action in the bedroom could be an indication but not always. Personality changes, talking about a person all the time. I suggest you stay attentive and loving.Listen to what he has to say. Be interested in him and what he is doing. and pray, pray, pray.
2006-07-20 15:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by ritalehr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a married woman having an affair with a married man. His wife doesn't suspect a thing because he will not call or e-mail me from home nor I to him. We see each other on his lunch hours and have sex in the van or at the park or video places with booths. I make sure not to wear any scent and only wear long wearing lipstick. We spend the day e-mailing or calling from our offices but his wife would never suspect a thing because he makes sure he's right on time everynight. She's called when we were in the middle of the act and he will take the call and just finish what he's doing when he's done. Men can hide it VERY easily by having a worktime affair. He's also taken vacation days that we've spent at a hotel.
2006-07-20 15:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by jbfhair2006 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) You find condoms in his medicine cabinet, and you've had a
tubal ligation/hysterectomy.
2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know
about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife
or girlfriend you are.)
3) Your cheating husband stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.
5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and
returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
6) He joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.
7) He buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.
8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.
9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.
13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible
to love more than one person at a time?"
14) He buys himself new underwear.
15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
16) The cheating husband stops wearing her wedding ring.
17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.
18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.
19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
20) He suddenly stops having sex with you.
21) He suddenly wants more sex, more often.
22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the
pay stub.
23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
24) You find out by accident he took vacation day or personal
time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.
25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his appearance.
28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially
after you have gone to bed.
29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and
had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.
30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more
than previously.
31) His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume. You
see lipstick on your husband's shirt.
32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account
drops off.
33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.
34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy"
and easily moved to anger.
35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when she hears your
voice.
36) He loses attention in the activities in the home.
37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
38) He has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the
home.
39) He uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
40) He has a "glow" about him.
41) Atypical erratic behavior.
42) He sneaks out of the house.
43) He sleeps with his wallet by the bed
44) He goes to the store for cigarettes and comes home 5 hours later.
45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.
46) The telltale signs of a cheating spouse/boyfriend? Having to ask that question
in the first place.
2006-07-20 14:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by spunky_blonde_nurse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends husband didnt go out at all, and still found a way. He chose someone they both were friends with and she would ask him to fix things around her house (cause her husband left her) like she did when she was married( the husband wasnt too handy) but now she was asking him directly instead of asking the wife(her friend"so called")like she used too. and he would offer to go to the store for her and take longer than it should(using the excuse the first store didnt have it or the lines were really long. So if men really want to cheat, they will find a way.
2006-07-20 14:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he still could cheat very easy. My ex didn't go out much either, but he cheated on me. Just watch for signs, such as his attitude, how he acts around you, and like if his style i hanging big time ask him about it.. But most likely he will deny it.. But sometimes you can tell if they are lying or not.. Good luck!!!!
2006-07-20 14:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just any noticable change in behavior is a sign he could be cheating.
2006-07-20 13:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the man is heading off you, or imparting you with one word solutions once you ask an easy question. in the adventure that they can't seem you interior the interest, then it fairly is a demonstration. in case your gut is telling you to be suspicious then i'd seek for the help of a private eye, or do your own investigative artwork. Get information earlier you enable your insecurities to take over.
2016-11-24 23:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by louthan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋