We let my husbands brother move in with us so we could help him out fiancially and emotionally through a rouph patch and he is now trying to sleep with me my husband has no idea we have only been married for 3 months what should I do? He is very persistant.
2006-07-20 13:31:09 · 37 answers · asked by sunnyday 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wasnt thinking of doing it but he drove 1400 miles to move here and we cant just throw him out and if I tell my husband he will kill him theres no easy way to deal with this im uncomfortable and the tension is high
2006-07-20 13:42:56 · update #1
He probably moved 1400 miles just so he could try to bag you!
Tell him to back off or you will be telling your husband the
very next time it happens. If he still persists, then that only
proves that he has no feelings for anything but his own
satisfaction and he deserves to be out on the street.
If he will try to take advantage of you and your husband in this
physical and emotional way, then he will UNDOUBTEDLY
also try to take advantage of you financially.
2006-07-20 14:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Crosscheck 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband. I don't care how persistant his brother is. Are you so weak that you think you might give in? If that is the case,all the more reason for you to tell your husband. This is something your husband needs to know. You say you have only been married for 3 months, well it is time that you think of the man you married. How would you feel if this had been your sister making moves on your husband? You would want to know. Tell your husband.
2006-07-20 13:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean what should you do????????
You have made a commitment of love and faithfulness three months ago with your husband. If you can't keep that commitment then why did you get married.
You brother in laws flirting might feel good, but are you willing to :feel good for a few momets and then lose your husband for a lifetime?
You Husband's brother has little respect and honor for his own brother to behave like this. If this is his charactor no wonder he is having a rough time in life. Sounds like he has habit of making wrong choices.
Tell him to STOP the flirting NOW or he will lose his place to stay. Don't let him sweet talk you or threaten you.
If you have a way to record this conversation do so, then you can show it to your husband if his brother can't stop flirting.
Give him one change to stop, one warning. Then stand up for your self and your marriage. If you can't do that....what sort of qualitly to you have in your life?
This is a no brainer.
Tell Mr. Persistant that it is time to STOP.
You know he continues to flirt because you let him.
2006-07-20 13:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what to DO??? Are you very timid? Would you be afraid of hurting him, because he is your husband brother? Than answer this one. Who is more important to your husband? YOU or his brother? How long has he been staying there? Sounds like with him being persistant, he is really a loser that won't amount to anything. YOU TWO shouldn't help him anymore. He is probably over 18 and he needs to figure it out himself how to survive. YOU and your HUSBAND are newly married and you two need the time for yourselves. without any interferance. PLEASE TELL YOUR HUSBAND!!!!!! LET THE DUDE TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF even if he has to sleep out on the streets. That is the only way he will learn to pick himself up .He has no respect toward your husband, as a brother anyway. He doesn't care about his own brother. He is being disrespectful.
2006-07-20 13:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a dog Woof! Woof! Tell him to bury his bone in someone else's flower patch cause yours is taken. Tell him if he doesn't stop you will tell his brother. And do tell your husband. This is disrespectful and totally unacceptable. Do you have the mind set that you can and will through him out if he doesn't leave you alone? Or are you going to give in to the creap? I had the same trouble and just punched the jerk in the stomach and told him that the next punch would be his big brother's. Gotta stand up for yourself. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Brother-in-law is not loving his brother much - now is he? You know what to do - now go do it girl - you got the power!!!
2006-07-20 13:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by MotherNature 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your husband know ASAP. His brother seems to lack morals and respect for you and your husband. What do you think will happen if your husband finds out and you weren't the one to tell him? You've only been married a couple of months are you willing to mess that up because you weren't honest. I'm sure their are other relatives he can live with. So put him out.
2006-07-20 15:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you value your marriage at all of course not you know that you're asking so you need to deal with your feelings too are you liking the come ons too I feel for your husband do the right thing and tell your brother in law No and if he don't stop then it's time to tell hubby!!
2006-07-20 13:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by classy chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband about what his brother tells you and be straight forward to his brother and tell him in front of your husband. Then if your husband does not believe you. You must make a choice of taking it to the authorities or someone else that you know for help and if that doesn't work you must take further action which means you got to tell your husband to choose who to believe or get out.
2006-07-20 13:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Hoel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question isnt how your husband feels about his brother, or feeling undesirable ect.. the question is how do u experience.. will u take care of to experience comfortable with him at your position of abode..?? if no longer then say your sorry yet that u only dont experience comfortable with him interior the homestead anymore even as your husband isnt there.. Its your position, u ought to take care of to experience secure at your position of abode, and c'mon, does ur husband fairly imagine that he will replace his techniques that quickly??? , he might want to replace for the on the spot however the subsequent time your by myself.. he will try some thing lower back.. he suggested "he gained't stay without you and could no longer end" that actual there might want to scare the hell out of me.. i suggested DONT enable him decrease back in .. and that i imagine in case your husband loves u , he ought to appreciate your desires its no longer your fault that his brother did this..
2016-11-24 23:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by louthan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comming right out and telling your husband could cause unwanted problems such as the brother denying it and your husband believing him or them two fighting. What I would do is sit down and tell the brother the answer is NO and if these advances do not cease, you will go to your husband and fill him in, not to mention that he will have to move out.
2006-07-20 13:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋