don't know if I wanna be in the childs life I am just so scared and confused I have no trust in my husband at all and I don't know why I can't trust him.....
2006-07-20 13:29:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just remember there was a life before you married him. You had one too. This child was the product of his and whether he or you like he is here to stay. Being a stepmom isnt so bad, after all you get to enjoy him and send him home at night or whatever the case may be. Now you will just have to adjust your marital life alittle but youll be alright. As for your husband, youll just have to rely on the good things that you married him in the first place and theyll get you thru this trying time. Just keep remembering That God has a reason for bringing this little child into your life and he wont give you anymore than you can handle. good luck
2006-07-20 13:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been with your husband???? Was this child a product of an affair???? If so ...then.... you have a probem... your perftectly normal to be feeling this way. If you gut really tells you that you may never be able to trust him... then I would leave. it makes no sense to stay in a marriage that has no trust.... that is not a good mix.... and the marriage is bound for disaster. You and your husband really need to go get some counseling !!! Best of luck.. with whatever you decide.
2006-07-20 13:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem. An old GF (from before marriage) of my husband told him that her child was his daughter (turned out she was wrong). I went through a lot of soul searching over the whole thing. Even though I couldn't stand the mother I couldn't hold it against the child if she had turned out to be his.
If your husband cheated on you, you could just call it quits. Or you could try and work things out and learn to love the child, who is the innocent in this whole mess.
2006-07-20 15:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you have a good reason NOT to trust him. He has a kid that is not from your marriage.
This sounds a lot like the soap opera I watch sometimes. You have two choices. Either accept the child and love it like it was yours OR leave the S.O.B.
2006-07-20 13:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by MountainMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he cheated and lost your trust ---(trust is rebuilt over time) --- you aren't a step mom --- unless he was married to her and fathered a child( they got divorced) -- prior to you and him getting married.
I wouldn't be there ---(separate for a time) go get yourself together first and think things out --- try counseling alone at first( that way you can vent and express yourself freely) and if you decide you want the marriage - have him included later on.
2006-07-20 13:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can talk to your husband or get a dirvorce but don't hate this child. it's not the child's fault, if there is anyone you shoudl be uspet with it should be your husband or his ex. If you can't trust you husband you should probaly divorce him but if you really love him talk to him about it
2006-07-20 13:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a stepmother and I still have major problems accepting his children- I cant imagine what your going through. leave now and save yourself!
2006-07-20 14:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by debbs000007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run run and run!
2006-07-20 14:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kenny H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋