He won't use a real pacifier and hasn't since birth. Every now and then he will but it's rare. How can I change this? He will use me as one before nap time and before bed time. By the way I am nursing him. I have another question, it's summer and me and my fiancee argue about this but how hot does it have to be in a car before heat stroke is a danger and this is with or without the windows down. What is the danger temp?
2006-07-20 13:13:51 · 11 answers · asked by Cici Tater 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He isn't using you as a pacifier...he's refusing to take a pacifier which is a substitute for *you*. The breast is what is *normal*, and a pacifier is the replacement, not the other way around!!
Heat stroke is a danger in *people* who are susceptible to it (but you'll never know you are until you get it). The air temperature is only slightly relevant. It has more to do with your own body and how you treat it (drinking enough, for instance). There is no single temperature that will "cause" heat stroke.
2006-07-20 19:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything over body temp is a possible danger zone. Always keep the window open if the car is either on or off. Even if it just a crack for fresh air. Carbon monoxide can enter in through the air vents when running the A/C constantly.
I feel for you. I had two who wouldn't take a pacifier. If these are the only times that he does it, then nurse him down and he should unlatch once he's really out asleep. If he's like my first one was, ( she wouldn't unlatch and would nurse in her sleep ), have a pacifier on hand. Once the sleep breathing pattern kicks in, break the latch with your pinky finger by pushing down on your breast with the pinky finger and gently slipping it under his lip to break the suction. Quickly, remove your breast with your hand, but don't get up. He's going to start rooting around. Slip the pacifier in at that time. You might want to have a little bit of expressed milk to dunk the pacifier in before you do this. You might have to try him on different types ( latex rubber or silicon ) and shapes of pacifiers. Give each pacifier 3 days before saying that he doesn't like it.
Good luck
2006-07-20 13:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for your first question, you are not a pacifier. A pacifier is an artificial you. Your little guy knows exactly what he wants and needs -- close, snuggle time with mama and nice, warm milk in his tummy.
My older daughter took a pacifier until she was 3-4 months old and then gave it up. My younger daughter would never take a pacifier (much to the dismay of my husband who really wanted to help out more). Both girls comfort nursed frequently. As my older daughter got older, I phased it out some and started to replace comfort nursing with just snuggling, a walk around the neighborhood with her in the sling, or reading a book or singing a song. She started to enjoy the snuggle time just as much as nursing, and although she was still nursing about 8 times a day at a year, she weaned to just twice a day very easily at a year and was completely weaned at 14.5 months.
My younger daughter is much more independent than my older daughter was at this age, but she still really needs her comfort "na-nas" at 20 months old. She has a much different personality, and although it's sometimes been hard for me to nurse her so often, I know it's best for her in the long run. I see her gain strength from those comfort nursing sessions, and she's ready to face the world again. I can soothe her in a way no one else can, and I realize how quickly these baby days will be over.
As for your 2nd question, I would never leave your baby unattended in the car in the summer. If you are in the car with him, and you're comfortable, then he's probably fine, too, although the car seat can make them very warm. I'd watch him very closely if he seems to be sweating a lot, and keep as much air moving around him as possible.
2006-07-20 15:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mom to 3 under 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear child,
Why would you want to keep your four month old baby from 'using' you as a pacifier?
A four month old baby should not be kept from doing anything. To withdraw what this baby needs, you as a 'pacifier' for example, would be to begin your precious child's life with deprivation, a lack of love and separation anxiety. Babies need all the human touch they can get.
Right now you need to give your baby everything he needs. Including pacification. Your job as a parent is to care for your child, not figure out ways to make your child self reliant. That will come later. Much, much later.
As to your second question, on a warm, sunny day windows collect light, trapping heat inside the vehicle, and pushing the temperature inside to dangerous levels.
On an 85-degree Fahrenheit day, for example, the temperature inside a car with the windows opened slightly can reach 102 degrees within ten minutes. After 30 minutes, the temperature will reach 120 degrees. At 110 degrees children are in danger of heatstroke.
On hot and humid days, the temperature in a car parked in direct sunlight can rise more than 30 degrees per minute, and quickly become lethal.
2006-07-20 13:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Temple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually 2 questions.
Answer to the first: Learn to say no. It might be uncomfortable for you at first but the more you practice saying no the easier it gets. Your 4 month old will eventually either a) stop trying to use you as a pacifier or, b) learn to use a non-mom pacifier.
Answer to the second: If it is hot enough to make you uncomfortable to the point of nausea or dizziness it doesn't matter what the temperature gauge says.
2006-07-20 13:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Twigless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son never liked pacifiers. But he likes to play with my elbow as he was nursing..even nursing from the bottle. I read somewhere that if you deprive him of what he likes to do while sleeping/nursing...it has negative impacts on the psyche. (Whatever :P but it doesnt hurt to just believe it right? The consequences of thinking that belief is a piece of nonsense and it turns out that it isnt...is greater. LOL) Eventually he will stop. Dont worry. Cherish this time with your baby. He is only 4 months old. Time flies very very fast.
Babies have a lower tolerance to heat. I live in the Philippines. There are days that the temp is just fine with me and I do not find a need turn on the aircon not even the fan but then even if it is comfy for me...my son is drenched in sweat.
Never mind us and what we think is ok...what is important is the child. I hope this helps.
2006-07-20 13:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for babies to want to comfort nurse But if you want him to take a pacifier, try having someone else offer it to him.
As far as heat stroke, if your 4 month old was born at term, he is going to be comfortable at roughly the same temps you are, so I would keep the car at least in the 80's (75-80 degrees Fahrenheit preferable)
2006-07-20 13:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by satans_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put some chili (chili powder or paste) around your nipples. And for sometime, he will start not using you as pacifier. This will REALLY work!
The danger zone is up to the body temperature which you cannot hold on!
2006-07-20 13:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by VBACCESSpert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cars heat up very fast with the windows up. If it is uncomfortable for you, it is more uncomfortable for the baby, be careful with this heat, babies can not take as much as adults can
2006-07-20 13:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Irie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he's a big boy and that the babies need them.So put them in a box and you guys send it to the babies(your moms house for safe hiding)he'll be really proud .
2006-07-20 13:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋