I need help because I feel like I am going crazy I don't know what to do about this lady she sends her friends over which are also his EX"S he tells them not to come around they don't listen. We also have a child together and it's really driving me crazy having to deal with this I don't know what to do sometimes I feel like leaving and never comming back I don't have anyone to talk to and i just really need a friend and some advice!!!!!
2006-07-20 12:56:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forget what you should do. It pales compared to what you want to do. Your inner voice is already telling you what you want to do, and women have much better inner voices than men, less ego to deal with. Ask yourself, "What do I want to do?" Listen to yourself as you are the only one that knows best.
2006-07-20 13:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First I would find out what is my husbands real feelings about what is going on. You say he tells the friends not to come around and they don't listen, then it is a reason why they don't listen. The woman shouldn't be no problem because you are married to this man and can cause a lot of trouble for her. Any court will go alone with the wife. You have lots of options such as getting a restraining order. All your husband has to do is pay child support and nothing else. If he want to see the child get a court order and you both pick the child up. Keep documentation of any attempts the ex make to contact your husband, like notes or phone calls. Like I said, there is a reason the friends aren't listening to your husband when he tells them not to come by. I am here if you need more support.
2006-07-20 13:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by patty j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to request for a paternity test to see if that child is really his. If so, besides some child support due, then hes got an on going contact with his ex due to this child, otherwise he can file stalking charges against her with restraining order to immediately stop all contact. It sounds like whatever other problem your husband had with his ex,love wasnt one of them and she wants that love back. With contact with his ex due to the child, this problem will probably get worse and your feelings too, sorry, just being honest. If the child is his he has alot of rights that go along with the child too and it sounds like you have a stepson os stepdaughter. Just dont really trust this other woman and also you can file for a restraining order for you and your childs safety if needbe. Not trying to scare you, but I have dealt with these types of situations before as a police officer and paralegal. If I can be of further help, email me.good luck
2006-07-20 13:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is... does your husband still has the "hots" for her? was the child conceived during your marriage?
1. if he is still in love with the lady... leave him!
2. if the conception was during your marriage, have a serious talk with him and give him the choice... it's your family or hers!
don't be mad at the child, the kid is just one of the victims! i know it is emotionally hard, but you have to do it! this will give you the boost to pick up the pieces and move on, either with your husband or not.
remember, you still have your own kid! give all you have to your child. you are not just a wife... YOU ARE ALSO A MOTHER!
2006-07-20 13:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first aspect i'd do is, insist on a DNA try. so some distance because the ex's acquaintances go, slam the door of their face when you tell them to piss off. i'd fairly be suspicious of the lady claiming to have had a baby after 5 years. appears like she needs him decrease back. Stand your floor and do not enable all and sundry get between you and your husband. sturdy success and perfect desires !!!
2016-11-24 23:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's psychO! GEt a restraining order. I've had the same type of problem but the dumb A S S didnt go as far as always coming over. She knew she wasnt welcome and got the point. Only problem is now, she's e-mailing and slashing tires and stupid crap. I say beat her A ss. Then her friends can clean up some Nasty B I T C h off the ground
2006-07-20 13:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Caramel_apples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has there been a paternity test done? do you know for sure the child is his?
if so, you will need to find a way to help support that child
as for the people coming over...just because someone knocks does not mean that you have to answer the door...tell them that you don't want them there...call the law to have them removed from your property...they will get the hint really quick
2006-07-20 13:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT LET THIS COME IN BETWEEN YOU, YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT SOMEHOW NOT BE AN ISSUE, YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS IF YOU REALLY TRY, I USED TO BE A VERY JEALOUS PERSON, NOW I AM NOT AT ALL.......I AM A MUCH HAPPIER PERSON AND I FOUND SOMEONE THAT IS THE MAN I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR MY WHOLE LIFE.........EVERY TIME SOMETHING NEGATIVE COMES INTO YOUR MIND, JUST TRY AND THINK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE, YOU DO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND RIGHT, AND YOU DONT WANT YOUR CHILD GROWING UP HAVING DIVORCED PARENTS.....IF NOTHING ELSE ACT LIKE IT DOESNT BOTHER YOU AND MAYBE SHE WILL STOP, I AM SURE SHE IS DOING THIS TO MAKE YOU GUYS SPLIT UP.DONT LET HER WIN
2006-07-20 13:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by kimblueize 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trip the best way ti deal with a silly b itch is to ignore her in the mean time get a pistol and any time a bi tch comes to your house uninvited bust at that a ss. As long as he is treating you right then don't nothing else matter don't let that female pull y'all apart because that's what she is trying to do. this is not the time to be unsure and jealous. This is a time to be confident. And if you do catch him fu cking up dismiss his as s
2006-07-20 13:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. girl... you desperately need an answer...you posted the same question three times !!!!!!!!!!!!! Well... you and your boyfriend really can't help how his ex feels about him.... if you trust your man..then you really have nothing to worry about. Now??? is your boyfriend sure that this baby is really his..... I suggest he go take an DNA test.. she might just being saying that to trap him. Keep your spirits up... if he loves you.. then he isn't going anywhere !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-20 13:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if this guy really loves you & wants to stay with you then if i was you i would move. get out of the area. start a new life all by your self"s. if his ex is sending his ex"s around to your home then it may just be to get at you so ignore them & enjoy your self"s good-luck.
2006-07-20 13:04:52 · answer #11 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋