I'm 17 and would like to make more friends...I've realised that i'm rather lonely. Joining clubs is not possible in my darn school, since i know most would say to join clubs..please give me suggestions.
2006-07-20 12:45:57 · 29 answers · asked by babychi 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk to Everyone – after years of watching a friend meet people easily everywhere he went, I realized his secret: he talks to everyone. I don't mean just the cute mail guy, or the girl walking her dog. I mean everyone. Whether it's the older lady crossing the street, your new apartment manager, or the drug store clerk, make it a point to say something to everyone you pass. You never know when you might have something great in common.
Smile – A smile is the best way to let people know that you're open to talking to them. Particularly if you find it hard to start a conversation, a smile can help you get the other person to start the conversation.
Have something to say – Okay, I know it's corny, but you CAN talk about the weather. No matter who you are or where you are, there's something to say about the weather. Living in sunny San Diego, I usually say "It's gorgeous outside today – wish I were out there!" or something along those lines. This lets people know that you like the outdoors, and that you've got a positive attitude. This works whether it's raining (gee, we really needed this rain), snowing (wow, the skiing will be great this year), or cloudy (it's nice a cool out today!). Don't want to discuss the weather? Discuss a current event. Read up on the latest celebrity trial, natural disaster, or scientific breakthroughs, and you'll always have something to say. In line at the grocery store, you can always comment on the magazine cover stories.
Ask Questions – You're new in town, take advantage of it! Ask people where the best sports bar is, which museum to visit first, or where to find the perfect margarita, and you'll get the ball rolling to meeting a new friend.
Compliment, compliment, compliment – You should never do this if it's not sincere, but a compliment is always a great conversation starter. And, it starts the conversation on a positive note, so people are already responding favorably to you. Tell the waitress her shoes are great, compliment your neighbor's car, let a clerk know she's doing a great job.
2006-07-20 12:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're feeling lonely. Not everyone finds solace in being alone, but sometimes it's the best time to take care of yourself.
As there are many different kinds of friendships, there are also different ways to have friends in your life.
Since there are no clubs at your school, would there be any athletic programs you could get involved in? Does the school have a year book or a newspaper? Is there a band or a choir? As a teen, I joined many of these for enjoyment and fellowship.
I also went outside the school. There was church, the gym, volunteer work, races I trained for, and after a while, I joined a dojo. All of these activies kept me busy and added a built-in social life for me, too.
I brought up different kinds of friendships because we often have expectations of people that they can't fulfill. Having a few dear friends is a blessing. These few close friends are who you share an emotional & spiritual intimacy with.
There are also "situational" friendships, such as people you socialize with because you share the same interests. There are superficial friendships that refer to those you are friendly with but perhaps don't have a deep connection with. Even though these friends are important to your social life, they may not be your dearest friends and shouldn't be expected to treat you that way.
It's important to know the difference about friendships and learn to modify your needs with friends. But it's also important that you love yourself and believe that you also have something to offer to your friendships!
I wish you well.
2006-07-20 20:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
High School can be the worst time of your life. If you're not part of the "in" crowd, it can be extremely painful.
I wont lie to you or give you stupid advice that you already know (like join a club -- just tell those morons to shut up).
My best advice (this worked, sort of, for me). Suck it up till you get to college. Go to a big school, and your guaranteed to hook up with some people you feel comfortable with.
Good luck.
2006-07-20 19:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a christian youth group. There will be a ton of activities, and a ton of cool friendly people. They also have cool facilities you can use liek pools, gyms, and other stuff. Even concerts and trips partally funded by the church.
I would avoid making frends at a dance club or bar.
2006-07-20 19:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by kool_rock_ski_stickem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes just join some clubs and go out and meet people of the same interests that's the most importaint
2006-07-20 19:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a gym. Take martial arts. Join a theatre group. What I have learned in my sage age of 32 is that to meet people you need to join some groups. Church maybe?
2006-07-20 19:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by torylocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to be lonely, making friend takes time, if your polite to people and always smile and say hello, that might make you more approachable by others, if you look miserable that will only repel people away from you, first impressions do count for a lot so let them see a smiley happy you which they will remember. Take care From Adam Laing.
2006-07-20 19:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by adamlaing2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find people on yahoo. See if they enjoy the same things as you do. If you find someone in your city that has a account on yahoo arrange a time and place you can meet. If not try to make friends in your school.
2006-07-20 19:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you can do is go out more well when ever you walk at school smile and be happy thats me im happy and always smiling well not always you know but yeah i got alot of friends just say whats up or something they will be happy if its a girl don't look at her in a bad way as in i wanna whoop your *** already just stay calm you can make new friends everywhere in this world so do as i say and it will work trust me
get back to me if it works ok
2006-07-20 19:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most cities and towns have recreation centers. That have a lot of really good activities, and you could meet some nice people there.
And if you are religious. most churches have youth groups, that do things together.
Good luck
2006-07-20 19:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋