I have had crushes on boys all my life. I even had a boyfriend in seventh grade. I liked him, you know more than a friend. But lately I have had feelings about my bestfriend. She is pretty. Smart, funny and I've wanted to kiss her for so long. Now I don't find boys attractive, and lost all interest in them. But I can't get over this girl. I don't know if she has any interest in me, but I do know I like her. I have been raised to know that this is wrong. My mother believes that it is wrong, and my dad thinks that if you love the same sex you are a freak. My brother constantly makes jokes about the subject. So I know that I can't go to any of them for advice. I'm just really confused right now. I guess I'm asking for advice about this.
2006-07-20 12:36:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Someone asked my age.
14
2006-07-20 13:00:30 · update #1
you're walking on thin ice.. you don't even know if this girl is ready for your feelings.
2006-07-20 12:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed you don't specified your age, that is fine, liking some one your own sex is not a bad thing. It may not be acceptable in our society but more and more people are coming out of the closet. Follow your heart, if you don't tell this person how you feel about her she will never know, though I do have to say you may loose this person if she finds you a bit weird so be careful. I would recommend you do go out with boys, for only one reason you may be too young to really know whether you like boys or not. Make an effort to at least date them, you don't have to fool around with them. If you don't give yourself a chance you may miss out on something you aren't aware of. You could also be going through a stage in your life of confusion, but true love does exist. Good luck zermenoj@yahoo.com
2006-07-20 12:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by zermenoj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten some good advice here but let me tell you:
1) ignore all those jerks who claim to be trying to "save" you. They are clearly not interested in your well-being.
2) find a trusted person you can talk to.
3) some people think that same-sex attraction is wrong or a sin. They are wrong and ignorant.
Good luck and slow down!
2006-07-20 12:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by guaposf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEIGH,I lived most of my life with a man because people thought it was wrong for a woman to love another woman.Do what makes you happy in life!!!If your parents are against this life style wait until you are on your own and making your own living to let them know.If you confide in your friend and tell her you like girls then rest assured she will let you know if she has the same feelings,if not keep the friendship and find someone who thinks like you do.They do have groups you can check into and you will have a room full of peers to find a friend.Good luck sweetie.
2006-07-20 13:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by mustang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a best friend who I absolutely adored. She was the only girl I've ever had feelings for. When I was 16 she told me that if neither of us had boyfriends we'd be dating. It got to the point where in highschool people would ask if we were really dating. I finally kissed her when I was 19 and I totally LOVED it! She would kiss me back too. Last Halloween she kissed me infront of her then boyfriend and I really wanted to kiss her back but was scared of what he'd say.
2006-07-20 14:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel. Ignore advice that reads only "it's wrong" with no substantiation. Forget people that tell you Jesus disapproves. This is your life. It is your only chance to do what will make you happy. Follow your heart. Occassionally there will be consequences. Frequently the will be conflict. But in the end you will have been true to yourself and who you are. You will not reproach yourself, and that is the most anyone can hope for.
2006-07-25 15:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You being 14, I feel you know right from wrong. But who are we to judge you in your decision???
BUT, I do think that you are a little young right now to be making that type of decision. You have your entire life ahead of you. You only go thur your teenage years once. Just be the teenager and enjoy life. Big decisions like this one can wait.
2006-07-28 09:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by whenwhalesfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely healthy to feel this way. Be glad ur realizing it now. I was married with 3 kids before I accepted the fact that I prefer women over men. What can I do now but stay?
2006-07-20 14:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by 2crooked 2b straight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to a GLBTQ youth group in your area where you could talk openly about your feelings and find support. You could just be curious, but maybe not, your more what is called Questioning. Don't worry about what "they" say, there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, bisexual, or straight and curious. Just be true to yourself.
Link to find local GLBTQ youth group:
http://www.youthresource.com/about/youth_group.htm
2006-07-20 12:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask God to help you, sweetie. He knows the answer to all our problems and is waiting for us to ask Him and trust Him.
Blessings to you!
James 1:4-6 (NKJV)
4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.
2006-07-20 12:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ujust hang around more just as frends then u say for like a joke do u like girl and if she says yas u just ask her if she likes u.
2006-07-22 22:34:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋