my husband and i have been married now for three months, and he has suggested a threesome, he says first with another girl then he will get me another guy. im realy thinking about it but not realy sure. i dont want it to mess our realationship up.
2006-07-20 12:21:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, think about this. He's getting his cookies from some other cookie jar, and your going to just take it from another guy, and then your going to go home and live happily ever after. Then, this girl calls your hubby up and says "you really gave me a great time, can we do it again, but just you and me? who has to know?". Can you trust him? If your comfortable with it, then I guess it could be good, but realize that opening the door to this swinging relationship opens the door to infidelity. If I had a woman that I loved, I would never let another man have her. But, if your bored with him already, why not look elsewhere with his permission. Could you really sit there and watch him make love to another woman?
2006-07-20 12:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
has he ever suggested a threesome BEFORE you were married? if not, something doesn't seem quite right here . . I would be curious if he were already bored in the marriage . . I would say if you are ok with it, then do what you feel . . regardless of how my husband felt, I would not let anyone touch him or me or have anyone putting their hands on him . . . to each his own but I think this will eventually do more harm than good . . and here is a question . . . why can't there be a guy first . . . and if he already has a girl in mind, seems like he is already interested and by having a threesome, it would be like giving him permission to have an affair ...... good luck . . . would not want to have to deal with this one
2006-07-20 19:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by wfgrg15001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT!!! They always say that after you do a 3 some with another girl they will get you a guy....they lie!!!! Try this on for size.....if your looking to do a 3 some then why not swing. That way you can have a guy at the same time he is having a girl. Your a couple, find another couple....that sort of thing.
2006-07-20 19:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a weird thing to bring up after marriage.. he definately should have said something prior to this point. Since you are even asking this question, I think you don't really want to but feel you have to because you still want to do whatever you can for him to make him happy. This is not something to take lightly.. think about it.. think of everything involved - protection, diseases.. what if the other girl involved became pregnant.. Not that it would happen but it is a possibility...
Is he interested in someone else? How long has he wanted to do this and not mentioned it to you?
Whatever you decide - be careful!
2006-07-20 19:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Midwest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been married 3 months and he wants something else? Strange situation. I would say absolutely not.
2006-07-20 19:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you disagree,
he will more than likely use it against you later when he get caught cheating (you wouldn't, so he found somebody who would).
If you agree,
What would happen if either of you enjoyed the third party more than you do each other?
2006-07-20 19:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him have another girl...but don't bring another guy as he will never forgive you if he sees you giving the other guy a better job then for him...
refuse ..and he ll be screwing all your girl friends and his secretary behind your back and now you don't want that to happen do you?
2006-07-20 19:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mr ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. it would be bad for the relationship. trust me, threesomes aren't good.
2006-07-20 19:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by dudeman_OG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're comfortable with it, then do it, but it sounds like you're not, so don't feel compelled to do anything you're not comfortable doing.
2006-07-20 19:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it one month and he wants that dump him he isnt faithful and he doesnt really want u
2006-07-20 19:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋