OK the situation that I have is with my husband, which I have been seperated from for 5 months now. We have three children together, and his adoptive dad has one of my sons and I am personaly going through a Termination of Guardianship case to get my son back from my husbands parents, well first my husband wanted them to adopt our son, when I said no I was getting him back, he then got scared and asked for me to hold off so he could move there and get custody, I yet again told him that he could not, because he would have trouble finding a job and he couldn't handel small children.So he told me that he would then allow me to go forward with the case and he would sign the agreement paper work.He talked to my attorney told him that he thinks our son should be with me, and my attorney mailed the paper work for him to sign, he hasn't come over, his room mates say he has been going out to get drunk every night and he hasn't been returning my calls.I have to get his signature.What should Ido?
2006-07-20 11:52:28 · 3 answers · asked by Tara S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So I can't get him to sign the papers, and if he doesn't sign them the case doesn't go forward!
2006-07-20 11:55:36 · update #1
Im not quite sure what your current relationship with your husband is, seperation, divorce, or what? Really doesnt matter, I guess, but it sounds like your atty is taking the easy way out, whether for your finances cant afford him, or he just really doesnt want your case and wont say it. I say this because it sounds like youre doing all of the leg work, in trying to get your husband to sign and he makes all the big bucks doing nothing. It sounds like your husband has a drug/alcohol abuse problem which could be to your benefit.Your atty can request a competency hearing for your husband in which he will be subpoeaned to appear and if your atty can prove he has an abuse problem thats has taken over his ability to comprehend,understand legal matters fully, thus making him incompetent to understand your papers fully, then his signature no longer matters in the eyes of the court. Time has come to get your atty to earn his money or find someone else. Also you better tell him, you got this from a friend or he will think youre going behind his back and double checking him and attya hate that and you dont need any more problems. One more thing the judge may have your husband committed to a rehab center for treatment which wont hurt you. good luck
2006-07-20 12:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Well he did say that he was going to sign the papers. Remind him of his thoughts. Maybe having lawers present during any talks that you have would be a good idea. He might be procrastinating because he really isnt sure how all this happened or maybe he can't comprehend that this is over. He may be avoiding you because he doesnt want it to be over. Go over these types of things with him. Let him know you want him to be an active figure in the kids lives and that you want to work together. Don't make it all seem like its his fault (guys are sensitive even if they don't like to admit it) Work together its for the children.
2006-07-20 19:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't suggest what you should do. I will suggest you really think of the long term implications and what's best for the children--what your day to day life will be like--and just pursue it, with his cooperation or not. Anyone who runs away from their problems by drinking is unfit to manage anyone, including themselves.
2006-07-20 18:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋