I am so sick and tired of hearing my boyfriend use his ex's
name in every conversation we have. We have been together for almost 3 years we have a child. every time we talk about any thing
its always sue this' sue that '. Ive told him before that hes derespecting me.he says he hates her she only wanted him
for money.I hate hearing her name every day.... what do i do?
2006-07-20 11:28:44 · 11 answers · asked by rokrgrl77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why on earth have you spent 3 years with someone like that and why oh why would you have a child with him? Oh well you are here now so what to do, he obviously doesn't hate her, he's obsessed with her, a gf from 3 years ago should be someone whose name you vaguely remember, not something you use in conversation. He obviously isn't getting it so i'd say a taste of his own medicine is called for here...everytime he says sue say oh i remember when me and kevin (pick an ex's name) went to wherever and did this, give it back to him everytime he does it. he'll start thinking before he speaks simply because he doesn't want to hear about your ex's. men often don't understand something until they experience it for themselves. don't forget to do it EVERYTIME he brings her up, and make whatever you are saying about your ex wayyyyy better than what he is saying about sue. then tell him that if what he really dreams of is a money grubbing b*tch you can accommodate him in that area, then ask for a couple hundred bucks to go shopping with.
2006-07-20 11:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's still seeing her and him talking about her is his was of easing the guilt. When you hate someone after 3 years you don't keep running your mouth about them. Especially if you have moved on and have a good life, there would be no need to keep looking back.
2006-07-20 18:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by tall_slimm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've told him how you feel, and yet he keeps bringing her up? Suggest that he get counseling to overcome his obession with her...after 3 yrs he should barely remember her name, much less have it come up regularly in conversation. Your relationship will have no peace, until he can put that ghost to rest.
...or maybe if you told him he has to choose between you or her, that you're tired of sharing him with her (memory), he'll get the picture...
2006-07-20 18:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that he had a lot of history with his ex then it's just something that he needs to get out of his system. I had a lot of history with my ex too and went through the same thing.
Instead of telling him he is disrespecting you try telling him that it bothers you and ask nicely that he not mention her name so much.
2006-07-20 18:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is enjoying telling you her name and seeing ur reaction.dump him if he cannot stop taking her name now before anything in paper imagine after marriage and come to think of it his sorry story of telling he hates her.
2006-07-21 00:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him he is not over the other girl and sounds like he never will be...... even if he says he won't do it anymore u know he isnt telling the truth.....its a broken record gf
2006-07-20 18:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by graveyard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about your ex boy friend also. Tell him he had a "bigger- one" too. That aught get his attention to listen.
2006-07-20 20:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He still deep down loves her. Not you.
You don't need him.
2006-07-20 22:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Q. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one second i will ask the president
2006-07-20 18:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by vernon_j_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big warning sign. let him go
2006-07-20 18:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by orangesensational 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋