Okay I do not really know where to begin. I am stressed out about this though. I am not really even sure what my problem is. I just know that I am not happy. I feel sick to my stomach. I love my boyfriend so much, I have been with him for 5 years and want to be with him forever, I just want him. He is a great guy and we get a long great. He is my life. I just feel so unhappy, which makes me doubt EVERTHING, even him which makes me so sick! I hate my job and feel like I have not moved up in life at all. I have had the same job for nearly 3 years with out any advancement. Plus we never have any money to do anything and it just seems like all these things we need are building up. I want to talk to him about all these issues... but I am unsure how. He is really supportive about me going to school and bettering myself. I just have all these crazy thoughts and doubts. I just do not want him to take any of it the wrong way. My biggest fear is not having him in my life. Please help.
2006-07-20 10:55:51 · 12 answers · asked by Kamunyak 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just feel stuck in my life. Does that mean that my boyfriend and I have a problem or is it just a problem I can resolve on my own?
2006-07-20 10:57:05 · update #1
You guys are great. Thanks so much. I read all of your responses and I was touched by how much you guys seemed to really care. Thanks. I looked up some info on stress and depression, and I think you guys are right, that is my problem. Thanks for the clarity! I can smile.
Nikki
2006-07-21 04:26:06 · update #2
It sounds to me that you may feel like this because you haven't done with your life all that you felt you should have accomplished. If you hate your job then that is a big issue, because you will then hate gettin out of bed and hate the life that job is providing you. If I were you I would go back to school get you the education you need to fulfill yourself at your job. Then that will probably make you feel better about everything else.
2006-07-20 11:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by clover31776 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel- I feel like that from time to time. I have a great boyfriend, with which I have been for the past six years. Sometimes I feel that I an achieving nothing in the world and that nothing makes sense and that everything is against me. What you need to do is address this problem immediately-talk to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel. Go away somewhere together just to get a break from everything and you can re-boot your system. It doesn't have to be a full vacation or using a lot of money. Just go to your nearest forest preserve for a picnic for the entire day-just the two of you. You need his support in this moment. Don't waste your money for couple counseling or anyother crazy thing like this. All you need is some break from life so you can breathe for a little bit.
2006-07-20 11:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered seeing a doctor and possibly getting treated for depression? Sounds like you're overwhelmed. It's probably easier said than done, but try to focus on one issue at a time; if going to school is going to better your situation in the long run, try your best to get through it. Yes, you hate your job now, but hopefully you will have more options once you're done with school. I don't know if there is a real issue with your relationship, or is it just your stress clouding your judgement. Do a Google search on treating depression, see if the list of symptoms describes you. Clinical pharmacology can make things a whole lot easier.
2006-07-20 11:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you have relationship problems, or that you have serious emotional problems, it just sounds to me like you are human. I think that a lot of your stress comes from finances. You go to a job that you hate everyday and it doesn't even give you the satisfaction of paying you enough to endulge every once in a while. I would reccomend telling your boyfriend that you are stressed and that you want to go back to school. Taking classes might be hard but I find learning to be a rewarding experience, especially when you can then upgrade to a job that you like and that pays you significantly more.
2006-07-20 11:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by mcguiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, I am going to start school in the fall, anyway. It's not a relationship problem but do discuss it with him, let him know how you feel, and maybe since he knows you best he can help you with these feelings. You want to better yourself, only you have the power to do so, pull your self up by the boot straps and make some changes. Good luck, and best wishes!
2006-07-20 11:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you might be suffering from depression. See your doctor and tell them how you've been feeling. It may not be anything like work or the boyfriend causing your feelings of doubt and anxiety. It could be a chemical imbalance or your mental health.
2006-07-20 11:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like depression and anxiety to me. It may be clinical, but not necessarily, you're going through some rough times. It sounds like you've got a keeper of a guy, and as he helps you through these hard times, you'll see just how true that is.
Best wishes.
2006-07-20 11:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a problem you are having with yourself and it might come down to you needing time away from your man and time for you to explore yourself and find yourself or you might be able to accomplish all this while still being with him...Only you can figure that part out though.
2006-07-20 10:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a doctor about depression it looks like you should really see someone for professional advice i know i have been there depression is a ugly thing
2006-07-20 11:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by PAULINA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your problem...you will still be in the same situation if you weren't with the boyfriend. You sound neurotic, do yoga and chill.
2006-07-20 11:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋