He is married and so am I. We were never an official couple but were very close. I am just missing him and reminiscing lately. I guess I'd just like to catch up and say hello. My husband may not be so understanding.
2006-07-20 10:20:54 · 29 answers · asked by Sunshyne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! you should always keep in touch w/ friends. Just tell your husband that you were just friends, and you want to keep in touch. he's married too, you should be fine. Hope it works out!
2006-07-20 10:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by gene_is_guilty42 2 · 10⤊ 4⤋
Are you unhappy in your marriage? I ask this because this is usually the first step when a woman isn't happy. Her mind starts drifting to days gone by, wondering... I would suggest finding something fun for you and hubby to do together and put all your energies into your relationship. If your marriage is great, then I have to wonder why you want to contact "an old friend"? Reminiscing is okay, as long as that's all it is. My suggestion...be content with what you have. Why mess with perfection? If it's not perfect, do something about it. My husband and I do lots of things together like fishing, motorcycling, playing cards, watching TV, working on the yard and other stuff. Maybe it's time to find something your both enjoy doing together and do it. We also have a pop-up camper and go camping together. It's fun and gets you out in the fresh air. You don't even have to go far from home to find a campground. Make new memories to reminisce over with your husband. Don't borrow trouble, which is what you just may find if you keep pursuing this. I've got years of experience and have seen it happen to others. It's better to be content with what you have. Many women long to have what we've got, and will look for every opportunity to jump at the chance to see a little weakness in our armor and take what we have. Think about it. <*)))><
2006-07-20 17:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do it b/c I know exactly what you are going through. I have been with my b/f for 8 years & love him deeply, but I still think about my old flings from time to time.... It's not that I still feel "that way" about them, I would just like to catch up. So as long as it's innocent & your husband knows about it; go for it! Just don't lie to your husband though....it's not worth losing his trust over if he found out.
2006-07-20 17:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Brooke~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no intention of this taking a sexual turn, why not invite your spouses along. I know as a married person, trying to find good married friends can be difficult, but rewarding. However, if you have sexual history, and your spouses are both aware of this, well... better to just find some other friends.
2006-07-20 17:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jimee77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have a problem with it. And I couldn't put my wife through the same thing, if I was to look up an old lady friend who I was close to. It's just not a good thing.
2006-07-20 17:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I don't think you should. Unless you husband is ok with it you wouldn't want him going behind your back to meet up with a girl from his past now would you? So respected your husband and he will do the same to you.
2006-07-20 17:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by LoSt84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say what you really want is to connect emotionally with him, you should think this through. You might start something you'll be unable to stop and it might negatively impact your relationship with your husband. Be honest with yourself and your emotions. Anyway good luck with that!
2006-07-20 17:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sauvi1967 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like you are in love with this person or even lust after him. yeah go ahead and catch up with and find yourself having an affair and then cheating. i mean if this guy is just a friend, invite your husband and have him invite his wife.
2006-07-20 17:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by Looking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words you are good friends with different sig others. If you only want to be friends and know yourself and the other well enough that all it will be is good times there is no harm in it.
2006-07-20 17:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by admiralgill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband isn't to happy about you getting in touch with this guy... then forget it. Why start what is potentially going to be an argument?!
2006-07-20 17:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have one life to live, so make the best of it. Talk to those that you care about, or haven't seen in a while.
2006-07-20 17:23:16 · answer #11 · answered by slugworm88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋