it turns out she never signed the papers and she's still married to that guy, it's gonna cost us $2000 to finalize it, Should I help pay for it, or should it come out of her 401k?
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2006-07-20 10:13:08 · 16 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is this some sorta joke?
ur an idiot
2006-07-20 11:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by iLuvMyHubby 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You mean she has become a bigamist? I assume. This is not a minor issue. She faces charges for marrying you, and he (the ex) could force the issue... Check with the state law of the marriage, and it is time to consult an attorney as to how to handle it. He might have filed, and has she signed a waiver to appear in the previous marraige... if so, she will be protected, because it was his responsibility to file the papers then. As for paying, the 7 yrs you have been married, you have filed as joint correct? If so, then it is not just "Her" 401K, the amt in it and contributions to it, are a 50/50 split for the 7 yrs of the marriage. But to get out of it, YES, make it come out of the 401 K if you do not have to close it, and can borrow from it without having to pay taxes on it.
Lots to consider but I am fighting one of these similar situations, and my attorney is advising the above.
2006-07-20 17:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by R. W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her take a LOAN against the 401k she can pay it back and pay no penalties. If you really wanna help pay half but it is her bed.
2006-07-20 17:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by admiralgill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about what you are going through
but if she want's this divorce then fine then she can take care of her own bill
after all she will after the divorce why should you pay
you will find some one out their one day and will be HONEST!
that is one thing she was not
2006-07-20 17:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her for everything she has. She wants a divorce from you now after 7 years because she is still married to him. Well bigomy is good grounds to bust her butt in court and bar b que her a**. Do it to her man. She sure will do it to you. Women have no heart in court.
2006-07-20 17:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is your wife....you should help her pay for it......since you and her are no longer 2 different people but 1 couple. You have to share each others problems.
2006-07-20 17:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her pay it out of her 401k, its a very cheap price to pay for freedom from a bad decision in her past. don't be devestated, it was a simple mistake...
2006-07-20 17:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her pay for it out of her 401K. it's her mistake and she needs to fix it on her own.
2006-07-20 17:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sprung it on you and yet in another question you say you have cheated like 40 or 50 times? Yikes. Don't play poker anymore with her.
2006-07-20 17:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the tramp earn it-go to Home Depot and buy a brass pole-then to Eletronic store and a webcam-show her how mad you really are.
2006-07-21 11:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should pay for it ! didnt you say you cheated like 40 or 50 times before?!
2006-07-20 17:54:08 · answer #11 · answered by jackiegradilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋