she wants a divorce she likes me but just can't be my wife she tells me
i am recently diagnosed sort of anyway as being bi polar ...i have lied and cheated trying to make myself better over the years .
Now i am getting therapy and medications I don't feel out of control anymore
However the last 15 years have destroyed her love for me and her trust in me ... must i just accept it as over or is tehre any way of getting her back ....i truly love her
she has sort of a boyfriend goin on ,,,,what do i do
2006-07-20 09:58:01 · 18 answers · asked by hooterwah00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok i haven't cheated for 15 yrs i did once 9 yrs ago ......and yes she has put up with alott......i guess i do want her to be happy i was just hoping it could some how be with me
2006-07-20 11:25:00 · update #1
Don't force your wife to be miserable. You can't ask people to love you, they should love you freely. I'd say give her her freedom.
2006-07-20 13:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 9⤊ 2⤋
You truly love her ? Really ? Then why in the hell did you cheat on her for 15 yrs ?? Yeah yeah, I know, you said your bi polar but its just another excuse for me. I'm sure she feels the same way. It might be too later to re-build with this one. Too much hurt and too much resentment. The only way you can try to re-build is first if she wants to try, second you need to fully understand what you did and how it made her feel and third you have to live everyday proving to her that she can trust you again. You do that by not lying anymore. It will take a long time if it ever does happen. Can you do what's needed ?
2006-07-20 17:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing you can do ... She went through SO MUCH issues with you .. how can u think ur wife will want to suffer that with you .. U are waking up and smell the coffee that she may leave you for someone .. Seems u dont want to be a loner .. sorry to hear that .. Again, you can try to take her to a marriage counsleor and see if its possible to save the marriage .. Thats the last option to go for ... She has every right to leave you for someone whos more healthier than you are ... im not saying that somethings wrong with you .. just not workable for her to accpet all the craps u have put her through .. so she wants a fresh life and fresh mind with a clean record .. soo trust is hard once u break it for the frist time and the trust cannot be the same again .. soo ?/ a tough choice, i think
2006-07-20 17:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by sunnya4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me many times I caught him once in the act I gave her the booths almost riped his dick off and broke his jaw. We have been to gether now for 21 years I think I'am stupid. I didn't trust him for the longest time he had to account of his wear abouts I'd even follow him at times as far as I know he hasn't in the last 7 years but I still don't have full truths there will never be once you break that truths it's always in the back burner waiting, coz you always think it happened it will happen again.
2006-07-20 17:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sad that she didn't elieve you that you have been having bi polar and tell her to come to dr. office and let the dr. know.. that It seem that you didn't know you have that for 15 years. that pretty damn long time. and she don't want to believe you that fine.. Tell her that you really sorry for what I have done and I didn't know I have bi polar and now taking medication and I am telling you the truth and I know truth that you don't believe me for last 15 years. But I truly sorry what I did to you and I love you more anything the world and I would do anything for you. see what she said.
2006-07-20 17:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You screwed up and thats all there is to it. If it was me, after giving you 15 years of chances you wouldn't have a prayer of getting me back. How many chances do you really think you are entitled to bi-polar or not?
2006-07-20 17:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to want the relationship too. It appears that she may have moved on. It may be time to let go. You have to continue to get better for yourself. Hopefully the next 15 years of your life will be happier and healthier.
2006-07-20 17:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust takes a lot of time, and a lot of understanding. To help build it back up, you have to be:
+ very patient
+ completely honest
+ gentle and affectionate, demonstrate how you feel about her regularly
+ consistent and dependable
+ understanding, even if that means letting her go
2006-07-20 17:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by ghost orchid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound brutal dude... but 15 years? Holy hell!! She's been patient and loving enough, wouldn't you say?
Maybe you should let her go and let her find some happiness... and maybe you will find some yourself with someone new!
Good luck Bra!
Aloha!
2006-07-20 17:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you have to deal with this but think of what she felt like you knew exactly what you what you were doing now you have come to realize she is half way gone now you want it all back should of that sooner sorry my heart goes out to her not you i been cheated on several times & my heart aches for me & only me him i can crae less the more he cries the less i think of him cause like you he will realize what he had when i am no longer @ sorry pal
2006-07-20 17:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by CYNDI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the poor woman a break-let her go!
2006-07-20 17:05:53 · answer #11 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋