My husband and I have been married for 11 years. I love him very much, but he does not satisfy me any more. I am afraid that I will cheat on him and I don't want to hurt him. He cheated on me and it devistated me. HELP!!!
2006-07-20 09:38:04 · 12 answers · asked by greeneyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has premature ejaculation. His ex-wife really belittled him because of it. It is hard to bring something like this up to him. I am in counseling now and trying to resolve these feelings and no, it is not because he cheated on me. I have had these feelings before he cheated on me.
2006-07-20 09:49:25 · update #1
I think you should tell him that he needs to learn how to last longer. I bought my hub this book years ago called *The Multi-Orgasmic Man* and OMG girl..it did wonders!!! As soon as he started readin the book our sex life got better and by the time he finished it I was having one orgasm after another...and its just gotten better ever since. Seriously. Buy him the book. Now.
2006-07-20 09:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Plain and simple. He'll never be able to please you in bed unless you tell him how to do it. Tell him where, when, how, and with what and you'll see a turnaround in that department.
You can't be afraid that you're going to cheat on him. You are going to either cheat on him, or not cheat on him. Cheating doesn't fall out of the sky and land on you. It's a concious decision that you make. So no-one can ever say "It just kinda happened..." cause it don't. It takes 2 people deciding to do it.
2006-07-20 16:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling immediately before something happens. Maybe what you are feeling is due to the fact that he cheated on you and unresolved issues that you are having with him. Go to counseling and see if you can salvage things.
2006-07-20 16:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going to your counseling, and maybe bring him with you for a session or two.
Keep in mind that in today's world there are medical treatments, and also keep in mind that there's more than one way for a man to pleasure a woman - decide together what you are (or are not) open to.
2006-07-20 17:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, you have not gotten over him cheating on you..maybe that is why you have pulled away from him and the marriage and your not attracted to him anymore.. you have some anger built up inside that you are holding on to and ending up resenting him more and more everyday for that..
2006-07-20 16:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he satsify you in the begining? You may have pulled back emotionally from his brief affair. Most likely he has lost intrest in trying to please you and only wants to have his fun and be done.
Have you tried to excite him with new toys or games in the bedroom or other places in the house. Taking pictures or making movies is also fun and will prolong the sexual encounter.
Good luck.
2006-07-20 17:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM!!!! If he doesn't know he doesn't satisfy you, he will never change. If he cheated though, maybe you need to decide if it's worth discussing and what you both need to do to SATISFY EACH OTHER. Takes team work.
2006-07-20 16:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Penny C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just quit him and get married again or be single. its no use living with such a guy hereafter. it doesnt make sense cheating urself and ur soul.love is a relative term. dont waste it on somebody who doesnt appreciate it.
2006-07-20 16:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by design_today99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he like to perform orally. If you love him and don't want to hurt him then don't cheat! Buy some toys. :)
2006-07-20 16:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by April G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is a MUST, in order to have a successful relationship!
2006-07-20 17:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋