my dad wants me to become a lawyer and my gf just broke up with me.
2006-07-20 09:33:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No Sweetie, there's nothing out there for you. Your dad is probably being too pushy, but I promise you that he only wants the best for you.
I heard Dr. Phil say one day that we all need to learn to accept our children for what THEY want to be instead of what we expect them to be. That is so, so true. So many parents just expect their children to follow in their footsteps, or even worse, they expect them to be better than they were.
That's just not reasonable thinking. My son, for instance, has a learing disability that will keep him from going to college. He tries his best in school, but still barely passes. Still, he's the smartest, funniest and brightest kid in the world to me. I love him enough that I would never push him into a job that he might not want.
A lot of parents just don't get it. They think that because they are good at math, their kids should be good at it, too. That's just not the way it works. Every individual has his or her own talents. My son plays guitar like a pro and has never had a lesson. He's funny enough that he could make a good living as a stand-up comedian. Most parents would never suggest that a child be a guitar player or comedian for a living, but what choice do I have? His learning disability makes it nearly impossible for him to do paperwork or math.
I'm sorry about your girlfriend, too. I promise you that the next one will be even better and you will forget all about this one soon. Just don't make the mistake of projecting the anger that you feel towards the breakup onto your parents. I catch myself doing that sometimes. I am mad at one person and I take it out on another.
Your dad loves you. I'm sure that he does every thing that he knows how to do to show you that love. Many men think that family will feel "love" towards them just because they go to work and provide a paycheck and a home. That's wrong, but that's the way many dad's think. He is probably frustrated because he senses there is something wrong in your life(the breakup)and he is just pushing to hard in all the wrong ways.
Don't leave home. Please don't. Being a teen is so, so tough. I would not want to go back to your age for anything. It really does get easier, though. You will be fine and you'll get over that silly girl, too. Maybe your dad does have one good point...work hard to be the best person that you can be and one day that silly girl will be kicking herself for giving up such a good catch!!! Hang in there!
2006-07-20 09:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by JustLookinAround 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First how old are you...??
If your dad wants you to be a lawyer are you out of high school yet? If your still in high school dont worry about what your dad wants its your life and you get to make decisions reguarding your career choice. Sit down with your dad and explain to him that thats not what you want to do with you life, but make sure you have a plan because hes gonna ask "Well what do you want to do with your life". As far as the gf dont worry about it, there are so many women out there looking for a good man you'll get another gf .
Dont run away that solves nothing, only creates more problems.
2006-07-20 16:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on Max!!! Lets see your dad wants you to become a lawyer and your girl just left you is that all!!! Lets see tell your dad you dont want to be a lawyer and tell him what it is you really want to do, and about the girlfriend, DUDE!!! your a stud go find another one. But to run away and put yourself in harms way is not the answer, face up to your problems and tackle them head on and watch what happens. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-20 16:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Doctor feel good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKay if you really want to leave home think about this..... do have some where to run to or are you going to be on the streets? Do you have a way to feed your self? Do you know how to defend your self?
Girls come and go... don't run away over a girl thats lame!
2006-07-20 16:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that would make matters worse... Let your father know what you want out of life. Our parents dont choose our destination.. as for your girlfriend.. if she left them maybe it was for the best. Again running away wont solve nothing
2006-07-20 16:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by foxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - hit the streets and eat out of garbage cans until some homo pimp makes you his $20/blow bxtch. Good luck.
2006-07-20 16:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just talk to your dad and forget about the girl there is plenty more where she came from
2006-07-20 16:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Gonzales#51♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how does running away solve either of those things? If you aren't being abused, don't run away. It's rough out there.
2006-07-20 16:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by gouldgirl2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you run away from home? what would that solve? and then that depends on your age of course, and should you still be at home or if you are being abused
2006-07-20 16:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by elegant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋