I've been married for more than 10 years and have cheated on her with about 30 different people. I'm addicted to it. I love my wife and have a decent sex life with her. I just like it on the side too.
2006-07-20 09:31:49 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's caught me once but forgiven me. Even after almost losing my marriage, I'm still pursuing others. Just picked up someone in Target last week. I can't help myself. Don't think I can do counseling without her finding out
2006-07-20 09:42:42 · update #1
you know sometime you have to evaluate what is missing, perhaps if you love her you should leave her, and let her be with someone who can give her what she needs. and then you wont have to feel guilty for not being able to give her what she needs. its hard though once you have tasted forbidden fruit, it kinda tastes good! that is why your sopposed to make your spouse your best friend, because things like this can happen. and keep happening! think about what u like with other folks? and then maybe think about swinging with her, ask her if she would be down, perhaps?
2006-07-20 09:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Maybe you have a sexual addiction problem. Maybe you have a confidence/inadequacy issue. Maybe you feel like you have all the power by keeping grilfriends on the side. Maybe you can't get enough validation by being "the man" in a realtionship. this is not fair to your wife/kids. It is not fair to her and she should not have to suffer the pain of your betrayal/sharing or you with other women. Maybe you don't want to leave her because she has grounds to leave you and take everything you own. Either way, you need to cut her loose or fix your problem. As far as kids go, even though they may not be old enough to understand what's going on, they will remember it, and it will define who they become. Would you want to teach your kids that a wife is simply a possession that does not deserve ay respect or loyalty from her husband? That is how you are acting. What does that say to her? Have you ever heard of karma? What will happen if you get an STD or an unplanned pregnency? Don't you value your marriage/family that much? Are you just afraid to leave her?
2006-07-20 09:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have an addiction.
If that's the case, you need to go into therapy.
Why worry about her finding out how much you've cheated on her... think about it. She already caught you once; just tell her you're still tempted sometimes, and after what happened before, you feel like you need therapy because you love her and want to be the best man for you that you can be.
2016-04-18 06:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Dan K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably a sex addict.
I would say to get help and tell your wife you've been cheating on her with lots of different women.
Even if you do have a problem, that's still no excuse to go ******* other girls while your wife is at home or work.
Go to Hell.
2016-04-27 14:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by jenna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Guy Join The Other 98% Of Married Men Who Do The Same Thing. If You See It & Want It Take It, You Know Women Think About Being With Other Men All The Time & 75% Of Married Women Are Getting Some On The Side, Trust Me I Think I Have Met Almost All 75% Of The Married Women.
2006-07-20 09:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Steve H 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Someone who stays married "Just for the kids" can't be the brightest bulb in the chandelier. By staying married, this person is most likely subjecting the kids to more turmoil and emotional trauma than would happen if he or she just got a divorce and got it over with. Staying married "for the kids" is also one of those devious ways in which a man is able to have his fun on the side and still keep his family life. You don't want to be involved with someone this sneaky and / or stupid, do you?
2016-03-16 22:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I wasn't mistaken, I would've thought you were my husband. But I have been married for 13 years and have 2 small children so I guess you aren't him afterall.
See I wouldn't have known that he had been having sexual encounters/affairs (w/5 women that I know of) if I hadn't gotten a STD...yeah ain't that just great?? (which also means I could've gotten HIV as he didn't use condoms.) This was all going on when I was pregnant with my second child, on bedrest and after she was born with health problems and had to stay in the neonatal intensive care unit.
Anyway, I am wonderful wife (his words) because I support him, am a terrific mother, learned his native language in order to converse with my in-laws, cook 6 nights a week, am not a big spender, help him with his office stuff, a size 6 and easy on the eyes and am pretty fun in bed. So why? You tell me because it had nothing to do with me. And I am sure what you are doing, has nothing to do with your wife either.
Why is another person's ***** worth more than my health, worth more than the 13 years of sacrifice I have made for him and our family, worth taking my life and his (Aids), worth destroying my kids' lives?? Why is it that, at that moment he can "think with the wrong head"? And why do you think it is cool to pick someone up in target??
You have NO idea of what you are doing to your wife. You can't truly love her because if you did, you would leave her. She deserves to have a husband she can depend on, someone that not only can stay faithful to her but wants to, someone she can turn to, someone she can trust. Are you providing her with those things?
I am not saying you are a bad guy....I don't know you. But I know what she feels like and from what you say she doesn't deserve HALF of a marriage. Why are you allowing your problem to keep her from having a real marriage?
As for me, well I stayed...I have kids and thought for their sake I had to try and work it out, but my heart will never be the same. He risked it all for what? He destroyed my trust and made a huge hole in my heart. Why is it that he played russian roulette with my heart, my life and my health but he can't even tell me why?
I don't know what to tell you. I think you owe it to your wife to try counseling. Do it on your own.....without her to help you get over this "desire" you constantly seem to have. Tell her you haven't forgiven yourself for what you did to her that "one" time and need counseling for it. Either that, or just stand like a man and take all that you have been dishing out ...I mean 30 people?? That is an alarming thing to hear when sitting on the other side.
Walk in her shoes . . . 10 years is a long time to think a man loves you when he is slowly destroying all that you have made and built together and taking you apart little by little each day, one day at a time.
If you REALLY love her then you owe her much, much more. I guess what I am trying to say is, you need to love her and do for her MORE than what you are doing for yourself. Hang in there and good luck!
2006-07-20 10:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to go see a doctor you sound like a sex addict. Dose your wife know what you have done. I bet if you told her she would leave you. I would. After 10 years of marriage don't you think your wife deserves better. Dose she deserve to be victim to what ever diseases you pick up whoring around. You should be ashamed of yourself. If you wanted to have some on the side you should of married a swinger at least than she could be having fun to. It sounds like to me you are a selfish pig who only cares about your self. I feel sorry for you wife. I think I will call her and let her know what kind of pig she is married to.
2006-07-20 09:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you shouldn't be married! If you truly loved your wife you wouldn't do that, as everyone says. Maybe your a sex addict. if you really wanted to stop you would or even seek help to control it. I'm not saying this b/c I'm a women but put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if she fu@k#d around on you. Its not fair. "what goes around comes around" I just hope you don't have children. Maybe you got married to young and never let that sex thing all out of your system yet. Like i said before if it really bothered you, you would stop.
2006-07-20 09:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by Jenncapa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-06-09 14:37:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, you are ADDICTED. The only way to truly help yourself is to seek counseling. 30 different women in over 10 years huh? Haven't you thought about AIDS and STDs? Oh and what about the vows you made to your wife?
2006-07-20 09:35:48 · answer #11 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋