If you tell someone you are offended by something that they said to you and they say "whatever"?

Question

is this a blatant disreguard for my feelings? The person is my husband/

Answer 1

Yes, it means that he doesn't care if he offended you or not.

Answer 2

Evidently your husband is too immature to admit he said something offensive and does not know how to handle it. He may not actually disreguard your feelings but he does not understand that you were # 1 offended by his remark but now you are doubly offended because instead of addressing the comment he chooses to hide behind the word "whatever". You need to ask him the question, "are you blatantly disreguarding my feelings"? I want to talk about what you said and why it offended me, can we talk about it? You have to ask this in a calm manner, not accusingly. The point is to get him to talk to you. Again, he is being very immature. If he still does not respond then you have to decide if it is worth being hurt or angry over.

Answer 3

Perhaps he's heard enough. Consider him, then speak your concern. Things can get lost in the delivery. The tone of voice and inflection can cut like a knife even if your imparting the cure for cancer. Just a thought, although I am familiar with how words spoken harshly can do the most damage to a relationship; oh my yes!

Answer 4

Are you getting offended over something others wouldn't find offensive? How often are you dragging that card out?

Yes, he should respect and discuss your feelings, but on the other hand, before you make a big deal over it, make sure it's not because you say it all the time, or it's something that's not unreasonable.

Answer 5

hi,
it is disrespect and i hate that expression "what ever" more than almost anything,
When someone mispronounces a name and is corrected and they say "WHATEVER", i get so mad i want to spit.

Or if in conversation i state my feelings or remind a person of something importand, and they say "whatever" I GO CRAZY,,\

i Am not or was not sure of this "whatever" comment, being an insult, or not but after reading your question, i do thinkn it is an insult, and if the tone of voice is sarcasticm orsounds "bored" when they use that expression i would say it is very disrespectful and i do not like it, so get mad,, i am mad for you,

Tell your hubby, when he is in a "needy" EMOTIONAL MOOD, OR SERIOUS WITH YOU AND LOOKING OR SPEAKING TO YOU WITH TRUST OF RESPECT BEING RETURNED then say,, "whatever" AND see if he gets the point..

OR MAKE HIM WRITE NO MORE "WHATEVERS" a hundred times before you DO HIM ANY "FAVORS".

good luck

Answer 6

normally it's supposed to be rude or when they don't have an answer or anything else to say it's a defensive mechanism, if you came on real strong and offended him he might of got defensive, but he could of just been rude, if you said it politely. It also depends on the situation if you said it in front of his friends he might not want to look weak or stupid so just said whatever to make you look stupid for caring, so he didn't look like he "lost"

Answer 7

There most certainly is a problem here and hopefully he's open to getting past this along with you. Something great brought you together and it's worth working out. Remember the love you have for each other. Please do not takes non_'s advise. Sex as a tool or weapon reduces you to his uncaring, rude level.

Answer 8

The constitution of the United States does not provide the right for you to not be offended. Get over it.

Answer 9

Mine does this too sometimes. I hate it! It IS a blatant disregard for your opinion or feelings and it's rude. Haven't found a fix for it. Yet.

Answer 10

Not only that, but he is devaluing you as a human and as his equal partner. Banish him to the couch until he agrees to play nicely from now on.

Answer 11

Yes.