2006-07-20 09:28:09 · 13 answers · asked by pinky05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have a flat tire on your car, you don't say, "I want to get rid of it." No, you fix the tire or have it fixed. Don't say anything about ending your relationship. Fix it.
If you are getting stale on your sex life, take time to be together, talk to each other. Reminisce about your young love. Go on a vacation. Maybe it will be just an overnight stay at a motel, but don't let your work bog you down. Companionship is important for a healthy marriage.
Start to save your marriage NOW. Don't look back and pick up the negative. Forget the sour times; don't remind the spouse of past faults.
Begin today to add sweetness in your married life. Be positive.
Why do you fight? All couples have disagreements. Talk over the difference and you will discover the argument was minor. Learn to be silent when you differ.
Don't let your grievances linger; get it over with. Don't have a fight before other people or your children. Never hit your mate. Be honest and understanding.
Jealousy has lead many a couple to the divorce court.
Show your companion respect and affection. As one person said, "Be sure it is your wife/husband you're in love with, not yourself." So many married couples love themselves more than they love their partner.
Every day say to her or him, "I love you." And put meaning from the heart into those words.
Hope this helps~
2006-07-23 12:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost - stay married. You can't believe the pain that divorce causes and for how long. There's too much to loose and too much for the others to be armed with if you give up. I would talk to your husband in a very calm voice, showing all respect and explain that you are uncomfortable with his parents living so close (physically and socially). The Bible teaches that a man must leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. This is the definition of marriage. If you are outside of Biblical law (that is if you're not sure if you were to die today you would go to heaven), then I would advise strongly that you and your husband find a church that teaches the truth about the Bible and what marriage means. Recalling that marriage is outlined in the Bible (Old Testament) and that is the institution that you've entered when you said, "I do". I would recommend an independent fundamental Bible believing church that does not just tickle the ears. If you are within Biblical law, consider all the passages about divorce. Matt 5:32 comes to mind. P.S. read what that passage says about anyone who marries a divorced woman and think about it some more. Read also, Mark 10:10, 1 Cor 10:10. There are many others, but I don't have my notes with me. In a nutshell, if you believe in Christ (and I don't know where you are spiritually), Malachi 2:1 - God hates divorce.
2016-03-27 01:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is the best way.
In order to fix things as a couple, both parties need to learn and grow. Only a trained therapist knows how to effectively work through all kinds of problems. They know how to approach the topic, because they are an objective 3rd party. They know how to promote discussion and extract information that normally is too private or embarassing.
Counseling requires pride to be checked at the door. Communication is crucial...if you're not willing to admit you guys need help, then you're likely to cycle your behavior until the destroys your marraige.
2006-07-20 09:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots & Lots Of Great Sex, Spice It Up, Visit Victorias Secret, And Give Him A New Way Of Looking At You.
2006-07-20 09:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by Steve H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to some common ground and agree to conpromise on what he wants and what you want.
Talk, Communicate, share. Try to remember what brought you together.
A counselor will suggest the same thing. Communication is key. Plus whatever he/she is doing to make you mad. Let it roll off you back.
Trust me it works
2006-07-20 09:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mscott21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, the fact that you don't want to go to counseling says alot about you, and the problems you're having.
2006-07-20 14:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tom G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray, Talk and Listen to each other, Be nice and patient, Spend some time away from distractions. Be willing to accept each other.
Good luck
2006-07-20 10:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Delta O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what your problems are of course. If you can make some rules that include respecting each other, don't make critical comments ever, and stop yelling that will be a start.
2006-07-20 09:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go through counseling, it's obvious that a crisis is brewing or you wouldn't be on this board thinking and asking about it.
2006-07-20 09:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its at that point
its to late
just adjust to the missery
if you want to stay in the relationship
2006-07-20 09:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋