I'm still hurt and confused!! Plese help!! What should I do?

Question

For awhile now, I told Piage that I would call her (since about a month ago or so), but I can't. For the past, I don't know how long, all I've been thinking about is what REALLY happened between Paige and Chris. In Paige's side of the story, Chris asked her out, but she said no. In Chris's side of the story, SHE asked HIM out, but he said no. Then I just found out a few weeks ago that they both said yes and that they were going to go out (while he was still dating me) but decided against it.

Now if you don't know what I'm talking about, back in January/February Chris and Paige had this thing together and were going behind my back talking and flirting and all that. Which really hurt me when I found out and I got so many different sides and I still don't know the truth

So I'm really confused and upset. What the hell do I believe? Both have lied to me so many times. I mean how far did they really go? Did they just talk like they said they jus tdid, or did they hold hands? Did they hug? Kiss? That's what's really bothering me. HOW FAR DID THEY GO?!?! Because, really, I have no idea. It is just so hard to trust him!

Every now and again the whole Paige and Chris thing pops into my head (since it happend 6-7 months ago) and I just get upset and my heart breaks all over again and I just cry. He really doesnt understand how much pain and hurt I went through when they were going to hook up. And that's another thing. How do I really know if they hooked up or not? If they kissed or hugged or even had sex? He doesnt know how much it still hurts me. I just want to know the truth!

I really don't know what to do. I can't trust him. I'm always paranoid that he's still talking to Paige or that he's talking to other girls, even on email/computer. I talk to guys on the computer, but I mean the kind of talking where you actually like them and are interested in them. I can't express, or fully express, how long the Piage and Chris thing still hurts and upsets me. I can't get past it. I mean since it happened, I've thought about it at least a few times a week. That's a lot of times to rehurt for 6 months.

What should I do!?!?!

P.S. I love him so much and I know he loves me too. He treats me like a queen. I just need to know the truth! I know I need to ask what happened, but I cant!! It's so hard!!

Answer 1

Ok, I may not know you but I could give some advice. It seems that you are very confused with the story. Well, one way to fix the problem would be to actually sit down with them and ask for the whole story. No matter the answer, try and remain calm, anger would just make the situation worse than it actually can be. After you get the answers make a decision. Go with your heart but also answer with logic. Being hurt is nothing new. With love comes pain and old loves can bring new pain. When you make your decision answer to yourself, is he worth this kind of pain? or am I in a new world of hurt if I continue with this as if nothing really happened? Look to yourself for the answers. Put yourself ahead of everything and do what makes you happy.

Answer 2

First of all, are you using these people's real names? Because you shouldn't be on the internet. Regardless of what they actually did or didn't do, they deserve some privacy. Second, I don't know how old you are. If you're still a teenager, you are WAY too serious about this relationship and you need to back off a bit. You know Betty and Veronica? They're both dating Archie at the same time, and they think it's normal. That's the old fashioned way, but it's the healthy way. Sure there is bound to be rivalry and hurt feelings, but you don't need to get yourself worked into a knot. On the other hand, the fact that either your friend or your boyfriend didn't tell you the truth goes to show that you need to be spending more time with other friends, and maybe dating other boys. Casually.

Answer 3

*****Maury**** he does lie detector tests or you can get your own done for a price..but you have to get Chris to go and if he doesn't then you know he's hiding something, the more you react to what he wants you to you wll never find the truth, that's the whole reason for treating you like a queen he knows your not going to go anywhere....Honestly, you only live in this 1 place, there are 51 more states that there are plenty of men who will respect you for you and won't lead you on.

Answer 4

I think you really know, thats why your heart and body are in such termoil. I dont know how old you are, but let me tell you something, this guy wil never be faithful to you. yes, he hooked up with your friend, and thats why it bothers you so much, you are afraid he likes her more then you, am I right? I know you THINK you love him, but real love doesnt look like that. Time will heal you, tell him to hit the road. Her too, if she were really your friend and he really loved you, none of this would have happened. and deep down, you gotta know that...

Answer 5

I'm sorry sweetie but trust is one of the most important foundations on which to build a relationship. If you have all of those doubts, and still harbor resentment for his past actions...dump him.

Answer 6

if you can't put this behind you then perhaps it is
time for you to move on. your subconscious might
be telling you you are better off without either of them
in your life at this point. sometimes "love" is something
much darker in disguise.

Answer 7

HE LIED TO YOU,, get it through your head, if he lied he don't love you,, and if she was your friend,, she would not have lied or gone out with your BF,,,,they are both crap,, and you should take a loooooooooong break frrom both of them and get your head together.

Answer 8

Man leave him alone, and leave her alone, move on and find a new boyfriend and a new friend. You sound young, you will have many more loves and friends

***** THE WORLD, ESE!!!!!!!

Answer 9

You can't trust either of them. I'd break up with him because you will never trust him again.

Answer 10

Omg....Drama....