Men and women who have extramarital affairs?

Question

Why is when a man does it, its cheating; but when a women does it its because she doesn't get what she needs at home?

Please no lame answers.

Answer 1

I've never heard that ... it's just plain CHEATING, no matter what. If you aren't getting what you need at home, then speak with your spouse, get counseling, work it out OR get divorced -- don't be a CHEAT!

Answer 2

I never cheated on husband, i felt that was wrong, so i divorced him, and the next one, and the next one,
so i would not cheat., Big deal, i did not like not feeling good, i was self centered, and a fool, (I REALIZE TWENTY YEARS LATER)

I realize now when i was single, i had a couple of relationships with men who were married, AND I WAS WRONG, AND IT IS STUPID, AND UNFAIR,
NO ONE SHOULD CHEAT, i was not mature, and thinking of it like i was not doing anything "TO HER" the wife, and i was only doing something "for me"

it is wrong nomatter what excuse comes up , I was a fool, out of line and selfish,

MARRIED MEN AND WOMEN, should do everything possible to correct and rebuild the marriage, running to someone elses arms, is a cop out, and dirty,, not too mention dangerous if the person they are haviing affair with is sexually active,

IF the married person is unhappy (misunderstood) AND has no relief in sight then leave, seperate, divorce,and then go out and have all the lovers you want,

I am ashamed of the actions i did, and i am not a special case, i was just selfish, and by the way, it is easy to get the best of a cheating person, there is no responsibilities, just fun kisses, passion sex, and a pat on the back saying that you are not a bad person,,when all the time, they would not like it if they had a partner who cheated .., who does?

Answer 3

I don't know who you have been talking to, but its all cheating regardless of your gender! I am a woman, and I have been cheated on, but that doesn't mean that gives me the right to cheat on the next person. I believe that in this day and age there is no such thing as a faithful (100 %) relationship and that is not because of me, it is because of the things I have experienced in relationships. Most men I meet, or go out with are only in it for one thing after you peel all the lame excuses away. I am not bashing men by all means, but this is just what I have learned from my life. I believe that a man and a woman should be committed to one another if they are going to say they are in a relationship, or that they are together etc...... with that said I think both genders have no excuse to be unfaithful. It is complete and total disrespect and it shows how cowardly you are to do that behind the back of someone you supposedly love.

Answer 4

Either way-man OR woman, it's cheating and lying (to cover it up) and does nothing but hurt BOTH in the long run. It also has long-term damage, like being able to trust someone again, being afraid to love completely for fear what happened before, will happen again because you did something wrong. No excuses work at all in the cheating world...and those that do, have found out, the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.

Been there, done that, got the t-shirt (in several colors!)...

Answer 5

I like the tv show, Cheaters. My wife and I watch it on a regular basis. What we've noticed is that women caught cheating tend to use the same excuse to try to justify their infidelity.

"You're never there for me."

Men usually can't come up with an answer that quickly.

One rule I have always followed is that, if you cheat on me, it's one strike, you're out. If you do it once, you will do it again.

I have never cheated on anyone. And i'm proud of that. But cheating is cheating. And even if there is a reason that might cause someone to think about seeking what they need outside of their relationship, it shouldn't be reason enough to cheat.

If someone isn't giving you what you need in a relationship, get out of it. Cheating is stupid. And I don't think any reason or excuse is good enough to justify cheating.

The common misconception is that men cheat more than women. That's not true. Women are just better at not getting caught, and if caught, using emotional manipulation to get out of paying the price for cheating.

Answer 6

Nope, it's cheating, no matter who does it. When you're caught cheating at poker, no one listens to your excuses on why you did it. You cheated, plain and simple. When it gets down to it, everyone who's involved in cheating has to take a share in the responsibility. Having been in this situation, I can speak from experience. Even though I was the one cheated on, I took my responsibility for what happened. It's an eye-opening experience to realize that you have issues that contributed to the problem. Remember, marriage is NOT 50/50. It's 100/100, with each person giving 100% of themselves to the relationship. When any part of that percentage is lacking, the relationship suffers. Cheating is never an excuse for a marriage that's lacking, not matter what the reasons. No one has EVER died from lack of sex! How's that for not a lame answer? Have a great day! <*)))><

Answer 7

Both ways are cheating. Some women do it because they feel they're not getting the right attention from their husbands, because men seem to forget to tell their wife how much they still love them or their wife is not "old news" or whatever. So when a guy comes around and the woman is "new" to them, they give the attention that the woman craves. Now men, sometimes it is the same for them. Their wives don't take care of themselves like they use to, and that is not fair to the husband. It makes them feel like their wife doesn't love them enough to look good for them. So when they meet a woman that does take care of them self, and shows the guy attention, what else are they going to do if they don't feel love in their marriage anymore? But none the less, it's all still cheating.

Answer 8

I don't think that is because she does not get what she wants at home,, there is no excuse for cheating, whether is the man of the women. Cheating is cheating. That is just an excuse that can't be justified on either sides.

Answer 9

I think man get the bad name since statistically men do it more than women. Genetically men are engineered to do that to save the human species. Modern man can't help it. So, when a woman does it with a man, the man still takes most of the blame and the woman is excused - whatever that excuse may be.

Answer 10

Cheating is cheating regardless!!!! I hate cheaters! I swear I hate cheaters & in my opinion there is NO excuse for cheating, I wish their testicles would rotten away slowly and painfully for every person that cheats! Because the person that gets cheated on feels so betrayed and there is no compareable pain then the one of beeing betraid by the one you love and trust! If you feel the need to have sex with someone other thenur significant other give them the curtasy & let them know ahead of time so they have thechoice of leaving you! I hate cheaters woman are no better then men!

Answer 11

Its cheating both ways. In general man and women cheat because they are not getting what they need at home