2006-07-20 08:32:18 · 8 answers · asked by Aura Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let's assume they were both just married to the wrong folks for the wrong reasons, one married to an alcoholic the other in a verbally abusive and degrading marriage.
2006-07-20 08:40:05 · update #1
It created a world, that I was actually the "star" in. I had been married 7 years when, one evening, I made eye contact with the man, I was really going to spend the rest of my life with. I had never even thought about cheating. My marriage was crumbling fast, and I was in total denial, until that special night. We have been together 25 years. As real life goes, there is problems, big and little, but we have survived all the journies, so far, together. I was the only one in love in my first marriage. Can you imagine how wonderful it felt, to find someone that loved "ME" back? I am not proud of ending one life to move on to another one. But, if it had not been meant to be, it wouldn't of happened. You just have to be in tune with the cosmic force. And pray for forgiveness's, to those you hurt in the transition. What goes around comes around. I got mine!!! You can bank on it! But our loved survived that too.
2006-07-20 08:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my experience that if you have an affair with a married person or with someone already in a committed relationship and you are the cause of the break up, then your relationship with that person will not work out. For whatever reason, when you get with that person, it doesn't work, or they will cheat on you with someone else the way your relationship with them started. My advice, let the person know how you feel about them and let them go. Let the marriage or relationship with the other person run its course. Then, you will not be the reason it ended and your chances for happiness would be better. If they never come back when they are free or it doesn't work, then it wasn't meant to be and there is someone greater that will come into your life.
2006-07-20 16:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by AMAZON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a man who unleashed his verbal abuse. I was not allowed to work or have any real social life outside of him. He started making porn sites and just turned into someone who I couldn't share a bed with. I had an aquaintence male friend that my then husband assumed was gay (just b/c he didn't date much) this friend invited me out shopping for pants (for him) and from there our friendship grew and soon became inseperatable. We had minimal physical contact (as in holding hands and suggesting all the things we would do to each other). This lasted 11 months when I finally left my husband. After that we jumped oneach other and have since the begining of our friendship make communication the heart of us. Some might say how can I trust someone or how can he trust me - all I can say is there is really that super tight bond between us and the communication. I was meant to find my now husband, the road to him just had a dip.
2006-07-20 15:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by monkeygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worked out great for me. We are still going strong and very much in love. There are alot of people who think they know everything and will say how "wrong" it is, but no one knows the whole situation except the people involved. In my case, his wife was cheating and he found out, and my situation was about the same, so we turned to each other, and we are very happy together and have a wonderful relationship. Good luck!
2006-07-20 15:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR OVER 5 YEARS NOW . WHEN I MET MY HUSBAND HE WAS MARRIED AND I HAD A BOYFRIEND. HE ENDED UP WE BOTH CHEATED ON OUR PARTNERS WITH THE DIFFERENCE THAT I WAS REALY IN LOVE AND AT THE TIME HE WAS JUST HAVING A GOOD TIME. AFTER A WHILE HE ENDED UP LEAVING HIS WIFE BECAUSE THEY WERE NOT GETTING ALONG AND BECAUSE SHE TOO WAS A CHEATER. IN THESE FIVE YEARS HE HAS CHEATED ON MY TWICE THAT I KNOW OF AND ONE OF THOSE TIMES WAS WITH HIS EX WIFE. I DON'T THINK ALL RELATIONSHIPS END UP LIKE THIS BUT UNFORTINATLY I STILL LOVE HIM AND IN DURING THE PAST YEAR AND A HALF HE HAS SHOWED ME THAT HE REALLY WANT TO CHANGE AND MAKE THINGS WORK. I DON'T KNOW I STILL HAVE THE FEELING THAT HE'S GOING TO CHEAT ON ME AGAIN BUT IF HE DOES, HOPEFULLY I'LL HAVE THE GUTS TO LEAVE HIM
2006-07-20 17:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by betty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never had an affair, never will.
However, i do wonder how people who have affairs trust each other. Wouldnt they be worried that this person cheated on his/her spouse with me. Doesnt that mean they wont do the same to me?
2006-07-20 15:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Moonling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have an affair but not think to left spouse for fun.
2006-07-20 15:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by sangita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what goes around, comes around
2006-07-20 15:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by spoiled_angel80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋