Hi, well im 23 years old and been with my bf for 5 1/2 years..I decided to apply to a study abroad program and got accepted, so in a month exactly i leave to Italy for a year. My bf is happy for me and very supportive, he said he plans to visit me during christmas for 2 weeks.
I'm throwing a party the last weekend im here, on that saturday..i leave that wed at 12pm. But my bf is a huge arcade addict, hes been playing since i met him and he has a group of friends who he gets together with and plays most weekends...they have a once a year tournament in Las Vegas..that same weekend when my party is and my last weekend before i leave. I dont know what to do..I want him to spend the last weekend with me and to come to my party since ive never had a goodbye party nor anythng like this, but it seems like he is planning to go with his friends that weekend Fri-Sun (this ttournament is only held once a year). I dont know what to do..should i be upset if he misses my party?:( ;p
2006-07-20 08:25:57 · 24 answers · asked by Kika 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I tried changing the event to the week before, but my mom had already gotten the cards..so now its unchangeable. I do support him with his game, and i want him to go thats why im posting this question yet i want him to come to my party but MORE i want to spend my LAST weekend with HIM!! Since I wont be seeing him for 4 months until he visits me in Italy or for a year if he doesnt come to visit me...am i asking for too much?
2006-07-20 08:27:29 · update #1
I was going to make a smarta** remark about dumping him but I decided to ask you if there were anyway that he could spend some of the time with you before you leave? Are you far from las Vegas? Could he spend a little time with you? Since you are both supportive of each other's goals, this is a good test of your relationship. If you really support his tournament,how about the two of you spending some special time together-just the two of you, no outside distractions. That way you get his time before the party and he won't have to feel guilty for going to the tournament. Would love to know how it works out for you two. I'm glad he'll be comng to visit for the holidays.
2006-07-20 08:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't count on it but give him a chance to surprise you. He may have something planned like GOING to the party or having something with just the two of you. You are probably very unhappy about the idea of explaining to your friends why he
is not at the party. He may feel like you are leaving because he is not that important to you anyway. He may also feel that the party will be a place where he will have to sit a witness all the excitement and celebration of your new life. His plans to game may be a way to ease his loss. I have two grown boys and witnessed alot of crying and heartbreaks they bared secretly from their girlfriends.Try to keep everything easy going. After the party tell him you only thought about him and look forward to x-mas with him.................................then hope if he does show up, that you will still want him there.......don't plan your wedding
unless you know he is free for sure...........love wishes to you,
a son's mom
2006-07-20 08:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both young, and right now his games are more important than your party.
Does that mean he doesn't love you? No.
Does it mean he would rather play games than go to a party? Yes.
I can't think of any guy who WOULDN'T rather play games than go to a girly good bye party. I mean...it's not like it's good bye forever.
You can guilt/force him into coming maybe, but he would resent you...and your time together would be awful.
You could stop making it an issue, and realize he still loves you but is just really excited about the tournament....and everyone is happy.
Put aside a special day together and make that your "last day"
2006-07-20 08:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time to find a new boyfriend. If he chooses a video tournament over his last weekend with you, he's just not that into you. Read the article below - then, get the book!
2006-07-20 08:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by nkasoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what.... if it was for something he did every weekend then I'd probably have a problem with that, but since it's his one thing in the year that he does for himself, then I say let him go!
He's showing you support in leaving.... one weekend isn;t going to kill you, even though it's your going-away party.
Why not plan something intimate and fun for when he gets back - just the two of you, before you leave?
2006-07-20 08:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by aaxof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 00:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is supporting you while you leave for a year, so maybe spend some time with him before or after your party and enjoy the time you get to spend with your pals.
2006-07-20 08:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by jessie1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Sounds like a stalemate. To you, he is sorta saying "your party isn't as important as the tournament." and to him, you are saying, "your tournament is not as important as my party and our last weekend."
I suggest you both do your scheduled things and not let it "mean" anything like the above. You'll be reunited soon enough and the best part of being a happy couple is to know when to stop imposing meaning on each other.
That'll be 10 points please. Thank you.
2006-07-20 08:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, in my opinion... There will be more games. I would be heart broken. A year is a long time and spending your last night together is important. Good luck with everything. I am just giving my opinion and how I would feel, so yeah.
2006-07-20 08:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not as happy as it seems that you're leaving. It might be his way of protesting your study abroad program without actually saying it since he seems to be a sweet guy who doesn't want to stand in the way of your education. That doesn't mean he doesn't have reservations about you going.
2006-07-20 08:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by guitarvocals 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋