Ok i have this friend of mine who is getting way out of line with things. He's married and Im seeing someone and I have told him time and time again to leave me alone but he wont! I fianlly went off on him about two days ago telling him not to talk to me anymore at work or outside of work. He asked me if we could still be friends and I told him no! Now he still won't stop talking to me! he makes every effort to speak to me or see me at work! What more can I do (besides leaving my job or changing my number) to get him to leave me alone????
2006-07-20 08:21:33 · 17 answers · asked by something sweet & sexy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
From what you've said, it sounds like your friend is interested in more than friendship with you. If he continues to harass you at work, I would tell your boss and have him/her talk to your friend. I would also make a point of telling his wife that he is getting out of line with certain things and you being a friend thought she should know. If she gets angry at you, then so be it. I'm sure she will be more upset with him when she approaches him about the situation. If neither of those don't work, I would go to the police and tell them what has been going on and see if they can help. Good Luck.
2006-07-20 08:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dorah C 4 · 18⤊ 3⤋
First I would tell your boyfriend, make sure he understands and have him go over to the other guys house with you to talk to that guy wife and explain what is going on. Let her know he will NOT leave you alone. Tell her the same thing you told us. Whether she believes or not she will be looking out to see what he does. If this does not work your best bet will be to move at least 40 miles away( or more) and get another job. I am telling you this because the same happen to me. What makes my situation so bad is I did nothing to make this happen. Remember this the more you reject him the more he will be coming at you. Because even saying no makes him feel like you are talking to him. Just seeing you at work even if you reject him there will do no good. ANY KIND OF CONTACT will KEEP HIM COMING. I know. You really need to be FAR from him to stop all this. But when you move do it in secret. What I mean by that is pack your things and be ready to go at anytime and just leave do not tell anyone where you are going or if you want, LIE and and give false info. He is mentally unstable.
2006-07-20 08:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his wife! That will end it. Hell no don't change your job! Nor your number! He's going to lose all over on this one because he's married and not prepared to lead a family. Tell him to spook off, and get a life. Then, a couple of years from now when he sees that he is truly the scum of the Earth, you can say, "see ya!" If you were her, (his wife) would you not want to know what he's up to? Heck yes you would! Peace :)
2006-07-20 08:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by fromdheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you - you have done everything you can and this guy still refuses to leave you alone.
If he's harassing you at work, tell your boss. Most workplaces have harassment policies in place for this kind of thing. Maybe this will show him you are dead serious and he'll back off?
Good luck - I hope you can get this solved soon.
2006-07-20 08:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by aaxof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to ignore the person at all cost and i would talk to the person you are seeing to explain the situation . also if you really want him to leave you alone talk to his wife and let her know you can't be friends with either of them any more if it keeps up.if all else fails get a restraining order against him.(if you are serious)
2006-07-20 08:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by libitzinc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, you should tell your boyfriend, if you aren't comfortable with that then threaten this guy that you will talk to the boss or his wife if he doesn't leave you alone.
2006-07-20 08:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him at all costs, rudeness can be seen as "playing hard to get". Tell ur boss, if that don't work tell ur man.
2006-07-20 08:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by SexiMami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to try one more time to let him know ur not comfortable wit him been around u. talk to ur man about it if he is someone understanding and if u thnk he will take it the wrong way (your bf); tell his wife
2006-07-20 08:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by Mighty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraning order! Talk to the police!
2006-07-20 08:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by redirishactress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his wife
2006-07-20 08:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋