i really need help
2006-07-20 08:10:56 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She did not take your boyfriend, he left. What they both of them did to you is just wrong. I cannot imagine the pain that you are feeling right now and I know that this is going to be hard, but you have to understand that neither one of these people cared about you. No one who does that to you cares about you. The only thing that is going to heal your pain is time. I'm sure that you want to do something to both of them, but I think that you should let it go.
What concerns me more is how you are going to carry this to the next friendship and boyfriend. Are you going to trust again?, Will you allow yourself to care about someone again? Don't let them ruin who you are inside.
2006-07-20 08:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only two people can end a relationship and that's the people in it. Your boyfriend had a choice, and he's a jerk, if he wants you back and you want him there's no problem, if he's gone accept it. Go shopping, get a makeover or get your hair done make yourself feel better and give yourself a confidence boost and carry on as normal.
He'll want what he can't have then. And if he doesn't you know it's not going to happen and you can find a new guy in the process because of this confidence (however if he talks to you talk back..you need the balance right, show you care slightly by reminding him of stuff he liked about you or things you did in the past but that you could also live withou him!) instead of obsessing over your ex and seeming mad!
You friend is wrong and you don't need people like that...stay calm and shake it off, there's always gonna be people like that in life...don't be immature by fighting over him or ignoring her, if you talk do it calmly otherwise I think you need to forget her!
Hope everything goes ok though. You need to decide whether you really want him after this and whether you could trust him.
2006-07-20 08:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your freind? OK freinds dont do this .AND on the other hand she accepted him he just went along with the idea.Or did he?who wants a boyfreind thats going to leave you its better now then years down the road honey
2006-07-20 08:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by wewamom2503 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend let her steal him away from you, what does that make him? A jerk not worthy of your affection. Let her have him...they deserve each other. What will happen is, he'll get tired of her grasping ways and dump her. I don't know if I would take him back, if he comes back at all. If he's that easy, how can you trust him not to do it again? If sweet words and a woman's ways lures his affections that easily, I would move on to someone who puts you first. As for what to do about your friend...I think you need to tell her that you can no longer trust her as your friend, being that she took something that was very dear to you. It shows her character. A friend doesn't do that to their friend. Yes, it looks like you'll need to distance yourself from them both. Usually, this is for the best. You'll end up finding someone much better, who values your trust & friendship. Hope all works out for you. <*)))><
2006-07-20 08:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg!!! i know where u r coming from!!! my best friend keept trying 2 steal my wat is now, ex-boy friend. it still bothers me that she even tried to do it. but i deffenitly put a stop 2 it. first u should wait till u calm down and u are not really mad at her or at least dont show. second, sit down with her 1 on 1 at a restaurant or starbucks or something(make sure it is in person. just tell her that u have been thinking and that friends who really care about each other dont steal their best friends boyfriends. tell her that she wouldnt steal ur make up so y would she sreal ur bf. just tell her how u truely feel about the stituation. if she understands how u feel then everything will get worked out between u2. if not cut off all communication with this girl cuz trust me it will only get worse from here!!!
2006-07-20 08:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you let her know you are not happy with what she did and that you can no longer be friends. If your boy friend cheated on you with your friend just think he would have done that to you whether it was your friend or someone you don't know. He not worth it. Just make sure you treat everyone the same way you would want to be treated. Just be stupidly nice that will bug them worse then if you just get pissed off. Doing this will make you a better person
2006-07-20 08:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Andria K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being her friend....screw her and him find a new boyfreind and freind
2006-07-20 08:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by Alexa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can take another person away from someone else without their going on their own free will.
If I would be upset with anyone, I would be upset with the boyfriend, because he was the one that made the decision, not your friend.
2006-07-20 08:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you call her a friend? If you feel like you have to talk to her ask her why? Does your friendship mean that little to her? You will never get back to where you were with her.
2006-07-20 08:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in front of them. Don't speak to them, act like you are too good for them. Then, get with as many people as possible and act like you are having the best time ever and you don't need them. Jelousy works great...
2006-07-20 08:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by hippychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋