We had to get our divorce papers notarized. It's been almost a year since we seperated, and months since we worked together, but for some reason as mad as I am with him, I just found myself wanting to sleep with him. I'm not sure if I was really attracted to him, or just wanted to spite his girlfriend. Oh god. Am I crazy?
2006-07-20 07:58:55 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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There are more than only one element to LOVE.
And it is important to note that LOVE never dies.
Couples break up because "part" of their love was broken so badly it couldn't be fixed, or they are too young and full of pride to fix problems.
Part of LOVE is the LUST. Obviously you still have all the chemistry going on for your husband. That's normal...but you two broke up for some other reason.
Other Parts of Love include TRUST, RESPECT, being BEST-FRIENDS, COMMITTMENT, and equal sharing and caring in a BALANCED way.
When part of love becomes corrupted, and both people in a couple or one don't work to fix the problem,... then a break-up can happen, but Love does not necessarily die.
You can very much still have lust for, or still be in love with your X; but if it can't be fixed then it can't.
If you feel that the marriage is worth saving, then do so, but it you still have (the demon) PRIDE...then it won't work. The same for him.
Both have to really want to save the relationship.
So you are not nutz, you are feeling those old feelings.
From your comments, you're wanting to spite the new girlfriend maybe, . that's just you hanging onto some possessiveness.
Truthfully, you don't give a hoot about the "girlfriend" one way or the other. SHE is not the issue for you.
Your feelings that surfaced, are what you need to deal with. Either face the occassional resurgence of those feelings with full knowledge you two will never be together again because ( **** < the reason you broke up);
OR
Try again in earnest.
But don't try anything just for spite or to prove you can, because the one that might get hurt is YOU.
Take good care of YOUR heart
stw
;)
2006-07-20 08:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. You did once have an attraction to this man, I mean, you did marry him. But just remember why you are getting divorced. Don't go there!!! It's not worth it. Just move on with your life, especially if there are no kids involved. You're crazy if you give him the time of day from here on.
2006-07-20 08:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,
Getting the divorce papers notarized is just one step in the process. The divorce will not be final until he gives you one last combination of a donkeypunch and dirty sanchez. Perhaps you should suggest a threesome with him and his new girlfriend that he actually loves, unlike you.
2006-07-20 08:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dickbiggenstein 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a history, you've been intimate, and you're a little bitter. Perhaps you just wanted some good bye sex. Perhaps you just want to really rock his world so you have the satisfaction of him thinking about you while he's with his girlfriend. Or perhaps he's been with his girlfriend this whole time and you've been sleeping alone.
Either way, there's a high road and a low road. Which way do you want to go?
2006-07-20 08:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope--in fact my ex-wife and I acted on that impulse about 90 days before our divorce was final. It was actually a wonderful encounter, but it was very clear very fast that nothing had really changed and we proceeded as planned. Hey--you loved him. That's no small thing. He'll always have a piece of your heart, and it's far from a bad thing. I feel sorry for people who are too chicken to ever give away any of their heart.
2006-07-20 08:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's completely normal. Hey, you were MARRIED to him, which is more than his current girlfriend can say.
I was married quite young (20) and we soon got divorced. But, we did meet once in a while, during & after the divorce, to have a bit of fun! lol *shame on us!!*
2006-07-20 08:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't crazy. A lot of ex'x want to sleep with the exhubby/wife. Simple reason is it's easier than going out to find a f*** and you know how each other is in bed and what you like them to do to you.
2006-07-20 08:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have that attraction to him. You were married! Just keep your distance and remember what you got divorced for in the first place. Did he cheat? Make yourself mad at him and don't fall backwards, it hurts too bad. Move forward....
2006-07-20 08:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by hippychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let it go. You just want to spite his girlfriend I'm sure. You need not play the childish games
2006-07-20 08:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not crazy at all. Not one bit. I feel the same when I see my ex. I think it's about validation. You want to be wanted by him again, even if he is a lying bastard.And, yes to spite his new who*e.
2006-07-20 08:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋