13 years affair. i no some of you will not understand and some will. make this short . i love him can a man love a women after haveing 13 years of nothing but sex. please answer that
2006-07-20 07:50:56 · 37 answers · asked by tellmelikeitis5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was with a women who was married she picked me up in 1992 and we had sex until 2005, she never loved me or I her, but we got what we needed from one another, she has since remarrried.
2006-07-20 07:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Affair,
Wow.. it sounds like an episode of young and the restless. With Victor Newman and Ashly. The answer is not on the internet.. it is in your heart. Only you know what you share. Only you can know the details of the way your affair has taken coarse not any of us here. Love is a strange thing when it is onesided. Ask yourself "How much you are worth?" Does this affair fullfill you. Is it really him using you or you using him. Maybe you have spent 13 years using one another in different repects. Why have you not confronted this issue before. Are you scared of the results. It is most often easier to just maintain the routine than it is to venture out there and find what you really deserve as a woman and a loving partner. I Know that they say men can mechanically have just sex and women get emotionally involved regardless of what they tell themselves.. I have found this to be 80% true. Sex is a very intimate thing and can be very fulfilling if you just base everything on that. Yet inside you will always long for more, which as i see you are doing now. Does he love you? Ask him? If he says no then tell him it's over and move on. You are not his whore! You need to make a few waves to get your answer. Aren't you worth it? Why are you wasting the Pretty?.. wake up and start to live again.. there is always hope! Be brave!!! Best wishes~Angelisa
2006-07-20 08:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by Angelisa Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be more there then just sex no man would stick around for 13 years just to get sex and nothing else. He loves you, I'm amazed you can stay in the affair that long mine is 4 1/2yrs and I just can't do it anymore,
2006-07-20 07:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a word for your relationship it is called convenient
That is all you are and ever will be. 13 years don't look like it will be anymore. Love is not part of your relationship. Convenience is.
You think a man can love you if ,you don't love yourself enough to find a man who doesn't sleep with someone else while he sleep's with you. There are alot of men who are single find one and the experience the love first hand between a man and a woman not 1 man and 2 woman.
2006-07-20 08:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better chance than 13 years of NOT having sex
2006-07-20 07:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you've become emotionally attached. After 13 years of the most intimate of all contact I can't see how you wouldn't love someone. Unless you're just a beast who screws for carnal pleasure ALL the time and have no emotions to go with it.
Personally...I like some emotional feelings with my sex.
2006-07-20 07:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear the word affair and think one of the parties is married. So, this would be a man who has no respect for either woman and a woman who has no respect for herself. He has his cake and he's eating it too. He living the life of no commitment. Love is not a factor. Sex is. Or to throw another cliche in here, how does it feel to be a doormat.
2006-07-20 08:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years of nothing but sex? After 13 years I'd say that there is definitely "more than sex" or it wouldn't have lasted (is lasting) this long.
2006-07-20 07:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by Maybalee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you waste 13 years of your life to have sex with a man that is cheating on his wife??? Even if he does love you...what makes you think that the love between you 2 would be different than the love he has for his wife already.....if you do get with him and marry or what ever....i can GUARANTEE that he will cheat on you also....Men never change....
2006-07-20 07:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I CAN SAY YES IN A WAY CAUSE IS BEEN 13 YRS THAT U ARE BEEN THE OTHER ONE INSTEAD OF HAVING SOMEONE ELSE. I BET THAT HE IS IN LOVE AND HE LOOKS THE TIME FOR U. DONT U THINK IS NOT ONLY SEX IS U THAT IS THERE MAYBE IS NOT THE WAY OF HAVING A RELATIONSHIP BUT IT IS A RELATIONSHIP OF 13 YRS .
BE HAPPY AND ENJOY WHAT U HAVE.
2006-07-20 08:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋