He works hard and has his own bank account, but he flips whenever I ask him for help paying a bill. We have four kids and one due in October. I work two jobs but am now supposed to be on bedrest. How much time do I give him to get his act together before separation or divorce?
2006-07-20 07:37:31 · 12 answers · asked by jsid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time for waiting for your husband to come around is long gone. You have four children and one on the way-he needs to cough up the money. You need to talk to him about this. What exactly is the problem with him giving you money for the household? Didn't he help you pay the bills before. If you don't hear valid responses from him or he is still giving you a hard time, you might want to consider leaving him. If he's not helping you, you can be broke all by yourself. You don't need him there. Also, If he has a problem with giving you money, he has serious control issues-that needs to be taken into considerations too.
2006-07-20 07:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have done something a long time ago when all this started. He is your HUSBAND. Isn't a husband supposed to support his wife and children? Not saying that the woman shouldn't do anything, because she should. But for crying out loud! You're working 2 jobs with almost 5 children! You're doing more than he could ever hope to do and he's complaining because you are asking for help!? That man should be shot! No wait, I take that back.... That low-life, self centered piece of scum should be shot! He's not worthy enough to be called a MAN because a MAN would love and care for and support his family! Honey, do yourself a favor and kick his sorry butt to the curb! Then file for child support! Then lets see how much of his precious money he has left! JEEZ! Guys like this irritate me to no extent! I hope you do what you know you should have already done. good luck hon.
2006-07-20 14:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't give you money to pay the bills, then give him the bills to pay for himself. Obviously you are doing what you can to keep your head above water. Sounds like he has something to hide. You have a rather large family for him to get upset every time you ask for money. I know it's a hard thing to do, as I am sure you do most for the kids, like most women do, but you have to start digging and find out what's going on, before it's too late.
Good luck.
2006-07-20 14:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him time. Give him the kids. Then you can rest from at least one of your jobs, and you won't have to be chasing the little ones all day. Of course, if your intention is to control & dominate your former man, rather than see that the young ones are well cared for, then go see a lawyer. You'll find that the laws have been made just so you can feed that old mate of yours to the lions and tigers.
2006-07-20 15:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by David S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont get it. if your both married and have 5 kids, how can he act this way? how come he has his own account? that shows you right there that he cant trust you or he cant be trusted. you need to talk to him stupid. gosh. tell him that both of you marrried to become one person and both of you TOGETHER need to pay the bills in the house and take care of ALL the kids. if he doesnt want to, then go around asking for help and then he will get all imbarassed and then give in and help. if i was there id kick him where it hurts.
2006-07-20 14:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's putting a little to much pressure on you. The second time you have to ask him is too long. I would try for the sake of the children to talk to him. I would leave him and make a better life without him. God bless.
2006-07-20 14:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time's up.. He's had enough time. Tell him to get on the stick, he helped make those babies and he darn sure can help support them. If he doesn't then I would get a divorce, and then he can pay child support.
2006-07-20 14:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him with child support. For 5 kids you will get LOTS of money! Also, learn what birth control is and use it!
2006-07-20 14:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta go quickly to the child support office.(Hurry dear)
Soon as the papers hit him.you will see a different person.
Please wake him up.You must do this for your kids sake.
2006-07-20 14:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by MISSY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you allow him to be this way he is going to get away with what u let him get away with do what is best for your children and yourself. u don't need a selfish man when u have four children.wish u the best.
2006-07-20 14:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by khalilah w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋